Gathering thoughts…
A world of little thoughts.
The people you love and care about make you want to go out and be present. In the past, I preferred to stay at home, lock myself away, and avoid socializing. But this changed with the right people. True friends, a loving family, and loved ones make you proactive, eager to make memories and go out, I don't feel lazy at…
I recently came across Anna Lembke's content on YouTube & tapped into my hitherto latent interest in the neurochemistry of pain and pleasure. Fun fact: pleasure & pain circuits in the brain are co-located, i.e., the same part of the brain processes both pain and pleasure. Anyway... I had often caught myself…
Is it alright to have sad feelings if they seem cliché? Is it okay to struggle with the same simple universal problems over and over for decades? I learn new facts every day but I won't learn anything about myself until I'm terrified of dying and fading away forever.
it's better to spend time alone than to be bored by people. after the norwegians left, i haven't really enjoyed hanging out with other people our age because all they want to talk about is BOAT PROJECTS and i sit there thinking about how they're wasting my time and how i wish i could go read and write but when you're…
então, eu posso ter demorado imensamente, mas voltei! e só finalizo esse blog quando atingir 365 posts. ontem eu assisti incompatível com a vida e chorei... chorei por ter me visto me despedindo, cantando, dançando, gritando, desguando sobretudo. pode sair, tá tudo bem. também pandemia. também ecos. também vômitos de…
I take things too personally. When someone tells me they don't like my photos, my brain says, "I'm such a bad photographer." When someone says, "Your outfit is so plain today," my brain says, "I have no style, I look ugly." When someone points out a pimple, my brain says, "I AM UGLY." Something happened today that…
Amazing how a simple thing like going to a new gym can cause such a torrent of thoughts in my mind. During the Holidays and the worst of the winter, many gyms, included the one I go, work reduced hours and/or not opening in the weekends. Clients are invited to use the network and go to the ones that remain with…
As a beginner, you need effortless to build a habit. There’s only one way to make daily journaling effortless. Before you journal, follow this two-step process, prep the stage and prep the page. These steps take a few minutes. 1.) Prep the stage As a beginning journaler, it’s important to prep your space ahead of your…
讲干话谁不会说? 收买人心 说话技巧 跟逻辑思维 才是王者 Knows peoples intelligence Think of high school - people listens to people like E or outspoken people more Now in adult working life - imagine why you would talk to JJ but not Aug It’s because he’s there for you to listen And people tend to go to the weaker person more if you think about…
Originally prompted in May 2019 in a writing course, periodically refreshing, my current 12 favorite problems 1. How can trust and transparency be cultivated among the interplay of public, government, and businesses toward environmental justice? 2. How can I self-regulate my reactions to those who are dishonest and…
i just did a yoga session https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S2D1WYgUeuM i thought about karl the whole time. who is karl? karl is a white haired old man we met at a port in greece everyone was freaking out!! because a flotilla came and dragged everyone's anchor karl was cool as a motherfucker. he stood there pitying…
Something of vanilla, bourbon, and lingering notes of all the versions of you that lived in this cloth. Yesterday, I thought it was over. I'm not quite sure what happened, I must have been too consumed with all of you that I felt within the coat that I didn't even notice the button, second from the top, loosen between…
exercise & study (like a language) can improve energy levels. No more “I’m tired” mentality. Say “this is hard mode” and this can affect 精神状态 Remove toxicity around you
Nowadays, I find myself overthinking what I write because so many eyes are observing. Judgment and fear arise, and I end up not posting at all. Writing for myself has become a liberating experience—I can pour all my thoughts into a post and then continue with my day, feeling relieved and lighter. This hesitation…
It is totally awesome to be free of the external judgement. To create without the fear to be misunderstood, to express any opinion being equal in probability to be discussed free of prejudice. Such an approach gives an adequate perception of the surrounding phenomena, allows to connect cause and consequence without…
These areas may be stand-alone, aligned, interplay, or coalesced with others and represent how I show up in the world. What I choose to do (and not do) is rooted in how I identify the external world in context of my values and strengths. --- R|CAT (Resource Catalysts) aka FLYWHEEL role: CONSULTANT ... business owner…
my eyes hurt from reading all night, my mind having grown imperceptibly rich, lacking focus. i think so little about my own life now, because of how much i involve myself in other people's business/thoughts TO BE HONEST. i think 76% of the rationale for reading is "I need to read if I want to write" and why do i want…
in my last post, i wrote about how persistence is a good skill to have in a world where it's as easy to drop into a dao then to drop out of it (or most of the time ghost the dao). a tangential skill that is hand in hand with persistence is focus. focus is something that is underrated in a world where our attention…
1. how far do we have to go? 2. are trees ticklish? 3. why didn't i say hi? 4. how to find a job that i love 5. can i go back? 6. what do earthquakes feel like? 7. what does heartbreak feel like? 8. how to keep breathing 9. how to care more 10. where do i find it?
it's so easy to take our greatest strengths for granted simply because they come naturally to us. and conversely, to normalize behavior that simply conforms to our surroundings. without stopping to ask the hard questions - to quiet the constant noise begging us to react to it, to be fiercely autonomous, it's easy to…
there are many stories and analogies regarding the output of pressure -- diamonds, and all that -- and though I think this is valid, I sometimes wonder if I seek it. that isn't what I intended to write there. I intended to write, "I wonder if it is necessary." an answer that is closer to some truth came as I wrote )I…
Hey guys, Today we'll talk about the legend of Amrita Sher-Gil. In memory of her life and the legacy she left behind. For all the things we read and hear about people of Ms. Sher-gil stature we ourselves have a personal relationship with them that's based on how we consumed them. This is my relationship with the…
I had another heavy conversation with my mom today. I’ve noticed she often has these outpouring sessions ever so periodically where she shares her pain and hurtful past incidents with me. 1. I’ve noticed a lot of repetition in the stories she narrates and I believe these are unresolved issues and conflicts that she…
Louis Pereira's perceptive post on not trusting intuition reminded me of something. (https://nicheless.blog/post/disregarding-intuition) A dear friend once told me that when someone close - friend, family, colleague - says to him: "read that book, its just your type of writing," or "think about taking up tango…
As I currently sit on the rooftop of my co-living community, I’m reflecting on what I’m grateful for during the past year here. One of the most beautiful experiences has been witnessing how everyone contributes something unique to the community based on what they love and who they are. I’m constantly trying to push…
you keep shouting my name on the sidelines so much so, that - unconsciously, of course, and probably without intent - you became my biggest cheerleader, even when i don’t do things exactly right i’ve never had that. then, i noticed that you apply the same softness in other aspects of our… acquaintance the first to ask…
I recently watched a viral clip of a podcast in which Tyler Cowen asks Marc Andreessen about the concrete advantage of web3. Marc attempts to explain, but doesn't do anywhere close to as good a job as you'd expect him to. And the skeptics loved it. That got me thinking - I've been bullish about web3 for quite a while;…
It only takes a second for your routine to be thrown off. Lightning hit our TV. It was our only TV. We don’t watch TV that much. It’s a nice way to wind down at the end of the day. We enjoy sports (it’s baseball season!). We love old movies. With no TV what will we do? Lucky for me, I have other pastimes. I am not…
When I was a kid, when guests come home, I would be so painfully shy, to go and just lock myself in the other room. I couldn't understand why my parents were angry and upset with my behaviour, i just liked to be by myself. My son does the same thing what I was as a child, when guests come, he runs away of recedes into…
One social skill shows people you speak to that you care about them. I noticed it yesterday when I commented on a Twitter post. The person began their response to me with my name. I immediately felt like they knew me. We've traded a handful of Twitter comments. We haven't met face-to-face. It's easy to make a habit of…
I was reading a post by one of the Nicheless users about how he became a Corporate Lawyer by fluke. This reminded me how life doesn't make sense if we look forward. But it makes sense when we look backward and connect all the dots. I started curating and writing a newsletter in October 2020. I didn't have any plans…
As a man, a husband, in my forties, who has moved more than 5 times in my life and had to get a new collection of local friends, one piece of advice I wish I could give myself is: never is an opportunity to "get real" with someone. When folks ask: "how's it going?" the reflex is to keep the response as shallow as…
Walk around. And conceive the best things Because really; it wouldn’t make sense if you try to think “you’re special”. The fact is probably you’re not - it takes hard work to build confidence and real talent/effort into doing certain things well. It wouldn’t makes sense if there are 2000 years of mankind history And…
I've spent so much time in one mode of living (ie the aspirant mode) that something else feels foreign and alien, something abnormal and even wrong. I crave the familiarity, the structure, the discipline of the routine. I crave the sense of purpose it provides. Yet I must also begin to understand that living in just…
I think I've found some sort of silver bullet. Not a magic solution to a problem, but an assumption that nullifies most questions I had. What questions? Questions about human behaviour. Behaviour can be predicted when you're observing a situation and you either have all the information that contributes to a decision,…
Question 1: What unactivated dream are you holding onto today from those before you? My name was given to me by my great-grandmother. I was an infant when she held me in her arms for the first and last time, somewhere near the coast of Nigeria. From what my parents told me about the interaction, she looked at me and…
Pari, you have an issue: 1. You assume for yourself where other people's boundaries lie, and tend to not believe them when they say where it is 2. In your intense need to people please and avoid conflict, you automatically regulate your own emotions and actions as per where you think their boundaries lie. This is…
This situation has helped me to understand one of the most important truths in life. We do not deserve to be happy. Both deservedness and happiness are human inventions that try to project a fictitious vital image that never materializes and, therefore, generates unhappiness. To explain this point we do not have to…
I was about 11-12 I think when I first fell in love. I’ve fallen in love many times since. They say first love lasts forever, true to an extent. Then you have the second love which hits even harder than the first and you think this is it. We are gonna make it. Only to have it all come crashing down. I’ve seen the pack…
What is the mind? I don't know. But I know something that seems seems pretty central to it. That is the focus of attention. I've seen people debate over whether or not we really have a will that we control. I can sympathize with arguments on either side. In my experience, if we have control over anything, it's how we…
The times, they are changing. We're in transition mode between a decade long bull run, and a recession that will last for who knows how long. If you stay quiet and listen carefully, you'll hear the pessimists collectively chant "I told you so". I don't blame them. They only get to be right once a decade. Meanwhile,…
I went to dinner with a group of strangers. After each course, I was paired with someone new. I met three interesting people. There was a stack of conversational cues on the table if we didn't know what to talk about. We were allowed talk about anything we want, except what we do. This wasn't about dating. That's not…
hospitals are scary - their cream tinted walls that seem to stretch out infinitely, the clutter of people walking and what seems to be the most terrifying is the occasional stretchers filled with sick people that pass by. you see their faces, their eroded smiles and the only a husk of the person they used to be -…
I'm discovering that when hardship strikes, it's tempting to wallow in self-doubt, but it’s more rewarding to put in the effort to prevail. Don't get me wrong, feelings are important but in the long run if your feelings keep you stagnant - then it's time to activate your will and fight for the outcomes you truly…
I look around and wonder, how many of us really upskill our selves for the whole sake of upskilling Or learning a new subject or a topic? Most of us are busy doing the same mundane job everyday, without even thinking what use is this to me and what value I am adding to my life with this job. We are all here just for…
Working in real life construction teaches you people that are working low level jobs (usually labour work) have more technical capabilities in terms of the way they think (programmed to think: how. dimensions in xyz. where and when to get the necessary tools) But the people on the management levels do not necessarily…
Muito fácil nossa cabeça nos dar o baile quando estamos tentando criar hábito. Tô nessa missão de escrever todos os dias aqui e hoje esqueci (até agora!). Acordei mais de 9h da manhã, coisa raríssima, visto que tenho duas cachorras exigentes e pontuais. Sete horas da manhã, às vezes antes, elas já levantam e, como…
Day-4 of my 30 day atomic essay streak. This one's about how I used mindful repetition to teach myself meditation. For my essays so far, the concept of 'Mindful Repetition' has been the only anchor. If you're unfamiliar with it, then please read 'Essay 2: Mindful Repetition, Compounds.' I have been wanting to practice…
