Gathering thoughts…
A world of little thoughts.
Let’s not be toxic towards yourself & to others Be loving Be better Broaden perspective Meet more people That comes from confidence Confidence comes from discipline You found yourself not feeling toxic anymore (she’s supposed to be feeling against me, etc etc) Which in fact Is there a spoken rule or a written one?…
Next time… a promise that was never fulfilled. As a kid, whenever I ask my mom for something she’d say “maybe next time?” Or whenever i ask if we can play a game together “next time?” I didn’t think much of it snd always hold onto that “next time” Now turning 16, I realised it was just empty promises. It was just a…
it's better to spend time alone than to be bored by people. after the norwegians left, i haven't really enjoyed hanging out with other people our age because all they want to talk about is BOAT PROJECTS and i sit there thinking about how they're wasting my time and how i wish i could go read and write but when you're…
Read this in a post on Instagram which said, "It's crazy how each day that passes feels the same, but when we look back, everything seems different." I was dissolved in a trail of thoughts. I think a big reason for this is that change often happens gradually, in a series of small events. It's not always a one-time…
you once told me that i looked beautiful. what choice did i have but to manifest your vision? you were my beholder i saw you seeing me
I waited in the train station restroom. A woman exited the stall, telling me, “There’s no more tissue, but I had some in my purse, so I left a small tissue pack on the dispenser.” That is when I knew I am not as kind and friendly as I thought. Scotland's culture is similar to the United States. We don’t dress…
Have a different flavour One room has mismatched socks Another, discarded earrings And yet another a space on a pillow. The kitchen is silent too Empty vessels that make no sound Wine and water turned to stains On spoons and rims of glasses. And the flowers on the balcony Nod silently And bloom regardless. December…
Às vezes a gente bate tanto a cara na parede, que a dor se transforma em algo confortável. Sim, a dor, aquela experiência sensitiva e emocional desagradável associada ou relacionada à lesões reais ou potenciais dos tecidos, que serve muitas vezes para criar traumas, deixar claro que tal coisa é física ou…
My 20-year journaling odyssey included many variations. I’ve started and stopped journaling, like trying new find the right fad diet to fit in a bikini. My journaling adventure has included food and water logs, family stories, travel experiences, and even free journaling. The result? Several half-used journals. My…
ahh a text i keep putting off from re-reading "the generic city" by Rem Koolhaas. from memory it speaks of ideas around identity. today i am seeing more conversation around identity from design. in contradiction to identity some designers thrive by removing identity...
Due to too much suspicious activity on Instagram Listening to “supposedly motivational podcast” But not aligning actions (WHICH IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO DO) DOING is most important and most vital Else it’s not important You should try out certain scheduling technics Which you’ve done quite well one day Just need…
Hoje é o dia do Leitor. Felizes de nós que pegamos gosto pela leitura desde cedo, e assim tivemos acesso a um milhão de mundos, a inúmeras vidas. Podemos viver pela leitura situações que torcemos para nunca encontrar na vida real. Morremos mil vezes, amamos, sofremos, exploramos mundos, enfrentamos nossos medos,…
last week, i fell into an argument with jaime who pushed back against my desire to investigate the workings of the orb. “theres no figuring out how it works” they said. “nothing here makes logical sense, nor should it. we just have to trust in the path that this planet is giving us. the orb is an opportunity to…
I don't even know Why am I here HE didn't tell me Just left me in fear To figure it out For myself Without making sure That it is all clear This is not fair In any which way What else is to be done Someone who knows Please come And quickly tell me The direction to be taken Whether to go This way or that one This is…
one thing i've always been shy to admit was that i always wanted my birthday to fall on a weekday because it meant that i could finally get attention from my friends or have a day all meant for me. birthdays are a funny concept - celebrating the day you were born when all i've wanted to do was dissapear. still, its…
This is not an essay. Rather, a letter to self. I have been journaling for almost 3 months now. It's irregular at best. Yet, it has been the best clarity building exercise for me. During the writing process, I discovered - patterns in my thought process. Such as - I start, seldom finish. I am an instant-dopamine…
Started playing Dungeons & Dragons again and Im easing back into being a dungeon master, something I enjoyed as a child. There are two big challenges: Preparation time and wielding narrative tension The reality of playing DnD as an adult is that time is scarce. And preping for a game as a Dungeon master takes up a lot…
What do you when you are feeling bad? Does the whole day need to be bad? Think of things that make you happy. Do a favorite activity. Help someone. Go outside. These are great solutions. They all came from the participants in a Tae Kwon Do class. I was proud that the first solution came from my five-year-old…
reflect & manifest reverb23 in january adapts the reverb10 event shared about in this post - https://nicheless.blog/post/before-%7C-reverb-in-december-20 "... online initiative to reflect on your year and manifest what’s next ... an opportunity to reflect on what's happened, and to send out reverberations for the year…
Focusing on work can be quite a challenge when your brain is racing like a little engine. More and more thoughts and desires try to derail your workflow. How can you catch those thoughts, suspend distractions, and transform valuable ideas into something productive when they keep coming? Having a solid plan and…
Today, it’s easier than ever to live the life you want. It doesn’t take long scrolling social media to see words like intention, mindfulness, and goals. The question is, do you know what you want? “Nothing will bring you peace except yourself.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson You must know yourself to know what you want. With…
Being good at small talk is to be present at the moment. Being good at job or work is to move fast or reply instantly and tackle the problem without any wait. You can see based on people’s reply speed… those who reply slow are tend to have lower work capabilities (because they think replying is hard, they choose to…
Okay, sometimes it's for the coffee. But most times, it's for the Starbucks experience. I know that the moment I step into a Starbucks, I'm going to be enveloped by that amazing coffee scent. I know that I can sit there for a couple of hours with my laptop and some good wifi. I know that a "Java chip for Aishwarya"…
I realized today that, it's entirely possible for my work to be tracking my every movement. When I open my laptop, when I'm idle, when I clock out - everything is checked. If they looked, they'd see how much time I waste thinking, doing my work outside the device they track me on. I wonder if in those moments, they…
Cold pizzas. They can’t be returned to their initial stage. You can reheat and eat but you cannot bring the taste back. It’s a symbol of things that are not reversible in nature and life. It is a sign of lost and found but found different than original. A cold pizza in your kitchen counter sings a slow melancholic…
i've been talking to a newish friend a lot lately and i am getting oversaturated with him! SATT. gnuag g'ha he is great in some ways; tenacity of spirit, willingness to try, writes great music but my god i know other people with spirit, willingness and talent and who ALSO have verbal intelligence and philosophical…
There are many things you automatically do better at, if done a second time. For me, when writing a piece of software, I get it all wrong the first time. It may work, but I can see how the code could be written in a cleaner and more effective way. If I get the chance to do it over, the result is better, and it doesn’t…
I'm so glad that I did not forget today to write. Maybe I should allocate a specific time everyday with a calendar block. I have been taking a class called 'Healing the Younger You' where you identify your behavioural patterns, your trigger responses and everything associated with finding yourself and healing yourself…
I don’t have a niche. Or to be more precise, I probably have several different niches depending on who I’m talking to and what I’m doing. I talk about PR and public affairs with students and clients and fellow PR people. Within these fields, am I a tech specialist? A B2B specialist? A charity specialist? I talk about…
Então, tirei os sisos, tudo certo, pontos sequinhos na medida do possível e tudo cicatrizado. Até que: AFITAS. Que coisa horrorosa. Três protuberâncias me causam tanto transtorno que eu sinceramente estou com vontade de morrer. Dor aguda e constante, tonturas, ardência, sensibilidades... Coisa horrenda. E sim, estou…
You can tell a lot about someone by the contents of their fridge. My fridge was mostly empty, some condiments and take out on a shelf and some stale vegetables at the bottom. I won't bore you with bullshit excuses about why I wasn't looking after myself. The worse part was the social dimension. Eating is as much a…
Olhando para fotos antigas, fotos essas que nunca soube da existência, também me peguei olhando para sentimentos que outrora não sabia do gosto. É curioso como são tortuosas as linhas que transportam sangue do coração para o cérebro, um caminho tão curto, mas ainda sim de diferenças metafóricas enormes. ♫ so baby,…
Ontem eu li "O Jovem", da Annie Ernaux, em que ela narra sua história de amor vivida aos 54 anos com um homem 30 anos mais jovem. Achei o livrinho de uma beleza extraordinária, onde ela não fala apenas da história sobre os dois, mas dos desejos femininos e dos preconceitos que sofremos como mulher. Para ela, não era a…
I think all of us growing up in India have never learned how to say 'No.' Since childhood, we got trained to respect elders and comply with their requests. A harmless practice in childhood that later leads to many ill-formed mechanisms as we grow older. A major downside of it often is our inability to know if we want…
A few days ago, I took a blog post, https://nicheless.blog/post/a-busy-street, that I wrote here, and I posted it on my personal blog, https://johnjago.com/blog/busy-street/. But there was a problem: I was disgusted with my own writing. I still believed in the message I was trying to convey, but the writing was awful.…
Acabei de ver um vídeo de uma senhorinha de 100 anos fazendo exercícios com a ajuda de um personal trainer. Coisa simples, levantar pesos, pegar e jogar a bola, levantar a perna com pesos no tornozelo. Coisa que muita gente com décadas a menos não consegue fazer. É isso, gente. Vamos fazer exercícios para ter…
There's a lot to learn from watching an ice skating class. Let me paint a picture so you can imagine what I see. A big round ice rink with about 50 people with varying levels of skill. There some who skate as if this were the Olympics and there others who resemble penguins trying to maintain their balance. You have…
“Women are so keenly aware of the male experience because our entire existence had to be kind of through that lens. Whereas men have never had to understand the female experience in order to exist in the world.” Here the comedian Sarah Silverman sums up a feeling at the root of so much of our hatred for outsiders.…
What do we say to the god of procrastination? Not today.
At a bare minimum, they provide a means for the redistribution of wealth, outside of that, they seem to provide no economic value. They can be used as a tool to better your technical analysis skills as well, and may result in great profits for the individual, at someone else's cost. This can be justified using 2…
The author, Dr. Benjamin Hardy, has written extensively about your Future Self. It's the single clearest way to create motivation, excitement and purposeful in your life. When you can imagine what you want to be in the future, you can feel it. You can plan for it. You can build processes into your life that helps you…
Eu tô tomando duloxetina pra dor crônica. E, sim. É um antidepressivo. Não vou mentir aqui dizendo que não tenho resistência a remédios psiquiátricos. Quando o médico falou eu já virei a cara e perguntei se não tinha outra opção. Levei uma bronca seguida de um sermão da enfermeira desbocada que tava no quarto. "Eu…
I went to see Batman. The one in which Rob uses a ton of eyeliner. Enter Screen 4: The gender ratio is messed up, not a surprise. During the intermission, I got to know, not very far away there is a place where the gender ratio is much more messed up. Screen 5, The BTS Concert Live Streaming. Now, how did I feel to…
To be influencing And effective in your words The smartest/dumbest person would do when someone point his pain point to you is straight to to his pain point and talk about that point Side him first “I understand! He’s so COPYCAT like omg I can’t believed what he did” “But…” “Have you thought of talking to him about…
It's been over a decade since I last started a blog, so curious how this will feel. Blog feels like an outdated term for this—I guess I mean, "long-form tweet!" Just perused the aforementioned blog I made as a young person. I'm so glad to have a record of that time, even though I didn't write much about anything that…
There's this scene from the Netflix series Sense8 (which I recommend) where the protagonists of the show mull the question: who am I? It's a beautiful moment where they rhetorically pose the constituent questions required to answer the big one. Your love, your fears, your losses all together make you, you. For the…
How do you become a lifelong daily journaler when your past journaling record sucks? Or, how do you become a lifelong daily journaler when you've never journaled? Two years ago, it was 20 years since I journaled for a few months. I didn't even journal long enough to see the benefits. I changed my track record by…
there was a study with mice where "the mice have a lever that they can press any time they want. When they press the button, a special optical sensor, which controls specific neurons in their brain, activates their dopamine neurons" anyway they pressed the button until they died with no desire of food or drink if…
