How to influence others
To be influencing
And effective in your words
The smartest/dumbest person would do when someone point his pain point to you is straight to to his pain point and talk about that point
Side him first
“I understand! He’s so COPYCAT like omg I can’t believed what he did”
“But…”
“Have you thought of talking to him about this?”
- This is the emotional support friend
Attack the emotional part first (because he is emotional when he shared his vulnerability - he needs comfort right away)
You can use this to people who are generally “needs more emotional support”
- To be problem solving friend
Attack the pain points - what you should do what you shouldn’t do
This approach to the “emotionally strong men”
And also depends on the problem you’re solving
If you think the problem doesn’t makes sense
Then think is the person you’re about to comfort going to take the hard way?
Cos if this level of issues — needs this level of consultation (which is you)
Then what better if you try to advise something that you can’t afford to advise on because you’re not capable enough too - everyone is learning