Gathering thoughts…
A world of little thoughts.
Congee served in a ceramic bowl, cubes of salmon still cooking slowly in a thickened broth of grain, stock and minced pork, each bite velvety on the tongue. Tangerine pollock roe smushed into a paste, generously seasoned with salt, pepper, lemon, egg yolks and a spoonful of Japanese mayonnaise. Expertly tossed through…
Pre-reqs you might want to grok this post: An understanding of IFS-style parts, and of how stopping resisting emotions can let them flourish and give you more freedom. —— I recently found a new emotional processing technique that has been really helpful. When I’m feeling an intense emotion, I consider that emotion to…
As small as it is, do as big as it can ever be. Especially the small things. The smallest detail you have to know. You need to know people - know the little details You need to put your best, even if you're booking restaurants, even if you're going out with someone... know the little details GO to the furthest Don't…
Ontem eu falei aqui que tava na bad pq um ficante terminou comigo. Fui almoçar com uma amiga e chorei no metrô, chorei no almoço, chorei voltando pra casa, passei mal na rua, enfim o drama. Eu já aceitei que eu sou dramática. Falei com essa minha amiga que eu almocei, uma amiga que tá vivendo um amor de verão dos…
Today is Mother’s Day but, as I write this, none of my family has remembered. I don’t really mind. I know I’ll get an embarrassed apology at some point later today or tomorrow. I do know they love me. But I’m going to remember it for my own mum. A couple of months before her death, she told me I didn’t need to deliver…
After 8 years living with me, my rabbit died this morning. He was not eating properly for days. I gave him his medicines right after I wake up, worried about his health, but he couldn't even keep himself standing. So I tried to force feed him with a seringue. After the first shot of the Critical Care, the mix of herbs…
I have been feeling slightly uneasy about how to spend my time and days. I have a lot of work to finish and tasks to do, and I do not know where to start. The feeling of having too much to do, no idea where to begin but at the same time not having any hard deadlines to help me take decisions is happening. I am unable…
Tô aqui pensando nas minhas relações familiares. Complexas demais, cheias de camadas que compõem o que eu sou hoje. Camadas de que? Aí eu já não sei, vou ficar devendo essa definição fechada porque eu acho que depende muito do dia. Podem ser camadas de rochas impenetráveis e perigosas, ariscas ou montadas como…
Is knowing that whatever you do is truly your own fault and accountability Whatever your life will turn out to be is purely based on you and you ONLY 保持清醒 Your own decisions to do whatever is purely based on you Just take a simple example You could’ve been early so manny times That nobody forces you to be late But…
Every age asks a single question of its people. Will you surrender your voice before you surrender your freedom, or your freedom before you surrender your voice? Power has always understood something that free people often forget. A nation is not conquered when its borders fall. It is conquered when its citizens…
Person number 1 vs person number 2 Relationships - people text, fuck, catch feelings and suddenly understand that: you have choices in your life - person 1 heartbroken - person 2 Now can’t admit I’m person 2 Always being telic Trying to “get some goals” “achieve something in your life” “being in that relationship by…
Used to think about the future. The past. The things I’ve not done. I should be doing this not that. But you used to forgotten that - if you keep worrying about You’re missing out on something that might add up to the pile - the PRESENT! The moment. Never be anxious by controlling yourself, your mindset If you still…
how did i get here - and where is everyone else?
Human ingenuity and persistence is best seen in engineering. A mere 2 feet separated imagination and death in the hour long flight. Multiple forces are involved, from engineering, flight management to freedom of choice in choosing flight time. We flew in a 1978 Piper Cherokee, i.e a 45 year old plane. She has also…
Walks might be considered inefficient, but for me, they are worth every minute. I enjoy walks—they slow me down and allows me to take things at my own pace. During these moments, I like to take time to reflect on my day, either planning ahead or recapping how things went. It’s also an opportunity to reflect on other…
I recently came across Anna Lembke's content on YouTube & tapped into my hitherto latent interest in the neurochemistry of pain and pleasure. Fun fact: pleasure & pain circuits in the brain are co-located, i.e., the same part of the brain processes both pain and pleasure. Anyway... I had often caught myself…
Kebahagiaan adalah merasa puas dengan apa yang kamu miliki. Kesuksesan datang dari ketidakpuasan. Kebahagiaan tidak muncul setelah mendapatkan kesuksesan, karena sesungguhnya kita bisa memilih untuk bahagia kapan pun. "Aku akan sukses jika memiliki X." "Sukses adalah ketika aku mendapat gaji sebesar X." Pernyataan…
Sometimes we only miss something when it's gone, and then we feel an emptiness in its place. The art should be to be aware of this even before the void appears. To fully appreciate every moment while it's still present.
Today I went to pick up my parents from the airport. First, the parking ticket didn’t go through, and the car behind me started honking. My dad went and shouted at them. Then, I took the wrong road, and we ended up in a bad area of the city. My dad was furious. Every word that came out of his mouth was loud,…
i have been continuing a visual style for over a year now, developing it further with each iteration. the world of narcissus; a delicate focus around oneself and their desires. what defines this world? the context to the world is irrelevant so it is not present in many creations. the water expanding to the horizon…
门当户对 - it's the relationship / survival skills. You did have love with YQ but it doesn't work in the end But if you're not - you gotta work hard to get there -------------- Because never compare. There's so much things that you can do when you're single. Focus on something that you won't regret You think you will…
The cold, empty space stares back at me: What if it doesn't resonate? What if I'm not pleased with it? Tick-tock More seconds elapse and I don't even have a draft to call first. It's an uncomfortable feeling. Staring across the chasm between the brilliant insight in your mind and the not-yet-articulated onto the…
Masculine powers vs Feminine powers Is just a natural attraction energies It’s not your job to make people “attracted” to your energies Each person is finding that partner that can succumb to their energies levels Live your best 20s Work on your personality The time to be the best extreme at everything is now Taken a…
Weird huh. They always say fall in love young. I did. And I screwed up. There must be something wrong me with me. I think I secretly enjoy the tragedy of a lost relationship. Sick I know. I'm just psychoanalyzing myself. All those years invested into relationships with nothing to show for it in the end. Just a broken…
HAVE I SAID ALL I HAVE TO SAY? Do those I love know the depth and history of that love, and that it persists beyond dimensions? Why am I waiting to tell them? Am I waiting for perfection before sharing my thoughts in writing or via speeches? What opportunity will I lose if the moment passes? HAVE I DONE WHAT I HAVE TO…
we have to realise that us staying with big tech social media is like a double-bind. We do it to stay connected to everyone - which is what most people do - or to reach many people - whilst our bubbles are negotiated by their owners, market logics and power games - power games that are entangled with the global arms…
There's a lot to learn from watching an ice skating class. Let me paint a picture so you can imagine what I see. A big round ice rink with about 50 people with varying levels of skill. There some who skate as if this were the Olympics and there others who resemble penguins trying to maintain their balance. You have…
Never hearing that you are loved, but having the fridge full of food —the Asian way. Never receiving an apology when they are wrong, but instead being asked if you are hungry or want some fruit —the Asian way. Being pushed to follow their dream life instead of yours, but receiving financial support —the Asian way.…
We quote Steve Jobs a lot on how we can connect the dots looking backward. To pick and choose parts we remember well to craft a narrative that we call our story, in a way that makes sense. Retrospective parenting is what I call consoling the kid who got hurt years ago. To make sense of the hurt that hasn't healed.…
Hj eu queimei a largada na hora de dormir e agora são 00:32 e estou acordada. Fui trabalhar, cheguei em casa, li um pouco e levei as doguinhas para passear. Depois a amg operada pediu pra eu buscar umas coisas pra ela na farmácia. Acabou que não tinha o curativo que ela precisava, só em loja de materiais cirúrgicos.…
I'm currently reading a highly recommended history of the American Revolution. It's a fairly big book with nearly 800 pages, and I'm about a third through. I'm not going to write much about the book itself, because I plan to write a more detailed review when I finish. I like history and read a lot of history books.…
Primeiro: eu assino a news de uma pessoa chamada Lalai Person. Foi por conta dela que eu achei esse nicheless e também revivi a vontade de morar na Alemanha, que parece um país bem quadrado no quesito regras (leva multa de 5 euros se atravessar o sinal fechado e as pessoas não estão sempre correndo na escada rolante,…
For as long as I can remember, I've hated Sunday morning mass. I'm not a morning person, and a six day school week meant I had one day to sleep in. But Jesus had other ideas. He convinced my mother of them, and she was relentless. So I went. But unfortunately for her, most of my time in church was spent convincing…
He came to see me, Even if I forgot. He was the inspiration, Behind every lovely shot. He always sat there, Fulfilled and lone. Beholding me gracefully, He jollied and shone. I remember spending nights, Thinking of him on my roof. I crave this gorgeous- He lives aloof. I ask the ones whom he met, Is he the same he…
I’ve been so supportive to Shivani. I’m so excited for her. That is true. But I’m also going through pain but don’t want her to have to see this because I don’t want it to affect her relationship. I can already imagine nelson saying “oh, you’re such a liar, you’re such a fake, yada yada” Fuck off okay? Take your own…
i'm really glad that my friend is a big lana del rey fan; i almost feel like that's his defining personality trait: love for lana del rey; and he tells me things about her and he sent me an article about her and i keep thinking about it... i'm eating haribo happy cola because lana's song title "cola" gave me a sudden…
I'm cooking pasta al ragù and it's going fairly well. It's not my first time, everybody is happy when I make it, everybody seems to love it. I'm not a great cook and not a stickler for detail. I'm currently stirring the sauce in the pan and at the same time stirring the noodles in the pasta pot, I'm doing it with the…
I am quite sure that it's not an uncommon thing for any desi/middle eastern child to declare the following statement - My mom's biryani is the best in the whole wide world! And I'm no such exception to this. I do believe my mom's biryani is the best and every other person who has tried it so far has claimed the same.…
i just did something new i commented on a tim senesi yoga video where he had a thumbnail of himself cringing @ and judging you and with the words "you're doing this wrong" and said that i think he's otherwise a splendid force in the world but that it's essentially beneath him to clickbait and say things that feed on…
No words can pin down what we call reality, but words too are real
You wanna be charismatic and people person as much as possible. So when you leave the office - remember that you’re only doing it cos you wanna get rest at home. Everything you do makes sense - so heads up and say bye to your superior and colleagues (imagine what E will do) - oh bye! And the voice will not really…
Que mágico é saber cozinhar. Recentemente, fizeram pra mim um arroz delicioso! No estilo cozinhar com o que tem, a pessoa pegou da geladeira uma alcaparra que estava paradinha tinha tempo, pimentão verde, cebola, lentilha e tomate. Com certeza tinha outras coisas também, mas essas foram as que eu mais notei. A…
The social web is for ̶c̶o̶r̶p̶o̶r̶a̶t̶i̶o̶n̶s̶ the people. •ᴗ•
I'm always drawn to the internet cacophony about notes. Everyone takes notes. Everyone's notes are all over the place. There isn't a system in existence that organizes, centralizes, and syncs all notes. Except, there is. In fact, there are lots of software applications that help you with your notes. Some are more…
If you're here on Nicheless and also are trying to figure out how to navigate Mastodon, and are finding it not at all a friction-free process, like me... Help. How does a new user find the smart people in journalism, tech, entertainment, humor -- and, oh yeah, steer clear of the anime pornbot trolls, which I thought…
i love patti smith's writing but i've never really like, gotten into the musician side of her and because "just kids" focuses so much on that, i got curious and so i'm watching a 1977 interview+concert of her and i'm shocked that she (1) has a new york accent (2) sounds so damn confident and opinionated in person…
Day-4 of my 30 day atomic essay streak. This one's about how I used mindful repetition to teach myself meditation. For my essays so far, the concept of 'Mindful Repetition' has been the only anchor. If you're unfamiliar with it, then please read 'Essay 2: Mindful Repetition, Compounds.' I have been wanting to practice…
Ahh i don't think we will ever see a way permanently remove 'bad' actors from our worlds. one one side of the venn diagram we have the 'good' actor, on the other 'bad' actor, the position intersecting both is our utopia. i question what will it look like...
