Gathering thoughts…
A world of little thoughts.
Another year to graduation and I've finally started thinking about the future, more seriously than ever before. Various trains of thought have lead me to realise that through most of my life I've restricted myself to goals that were easy to meet and so I hardly ever really got to a point of complete satisfaction. As a…
Is 1+1 = 3? Looking at my past relationship I see 1+1 is 10 in the beginning. But when the relationship goes to the end one of the 1 is not making less of his own number and he comes even less than what he’s supposed to be: a 1. He was less than a 1, and the other 1 does not care. The maths doesn’t make sense anymore…
I guess having a stream of thought is a lot like a thread. It can break once it becomes too long. Which is easy when sentences are stuffed with filler words and excessive adjectives. Spelling errors galore. Reading back with proof reading eyes feels like a draughting task. Many essays and thoughts abandon before they…
Crazy thought -- I know -- but what if much of what ails this world could be fixed simply by finding the right place for people to fit? Now, I know I'm CrAaAzY but maybe -- just maybe -- that's because sanity is defined by the contrast of perspective; what is sane to you is insane to me, and so forth. "Well, WE are…
Question 1: What unactivated dream are you holding onto today from those before you? My name was given to me by my great-grandmother. I was an infant when she held me in her arms for the first and last time, somewhere near the coast of Nigeria. From what my parents told me about the interaction, she looked at me and…
It starts with a door opening. Then you just see a man's feet trudging through the snow on a horrible dark night. He turns over the ignition and the car's headlamp seems to appear in the darkness. We watch the car make its way down the road. It's the only car on this awful kind of deep snow-covered road. And then a…
Quite often, I hesitate to acknowledge my pettiness. For instance, I took up this writing challenge for the month but have had days when I didn't publish. I missed writing the piece for a total of six days. Of the six, on two days, I hit publish without adding any content because I wanted it to seem regular. How…
Is it fucked to think that If you want to get attracted TO other person The first thing to do is to be attractive yourself (girls trying to be pretty; guys trying to make money) Then you’ll attract people who WANTS it (kinda fucked up to think people you attracted will be lesser than you) Be a great story teller, a…
In the book "Thinking Fast and Slow" by Daniel Kahneman, there is a distinction made between two aspects of thinking: system one and system two. System one refers to fast and automatic thinking, while system two involves slow and deliberate thought processes. For everyday tasks like opening doors or getting dressed,…
Recentemente Tia Laura arrumou suas coisinhas, preparou um antepasto que só ela sabia fazer e o deixou curando em cima da mesa, tirou o pó dos ombros e pegou aquele elevador que só sobe, não desce; e se foi. Com o poder de tranquilizar quem quer que fosse, ajudar como podia todos ao seu redor, sempre tinha aquele…
At the end of our stay at a pleasant inn last year, I wanted to tip the room staff. I didn't have any cash, there was no on-prem ATM, and hotel was in the middle of nowhere. I had an idea: why not place placards or cards in the rooms at the end of a stay that would allow guests to tip via Venmo, Cash App, or some…
Today, I had a really nice Zen day. I'm in Crestone, CO visiting for a month. I enjoyed the mountain view and the local library, where I read a book about stillness and being present in your moment. Last night, I contacted our Airbnb host to ask about why my trash had not been picked up. The response kicked me out of…
Sometimes when I look at something that I have written, I can't believe I thought of these words. These words, they just come to me. I have to put pen on paper and give it form. I feel like a messenger at times. The universe or some cosmic force whispering to me. Sometimes these words don't feel like mine. I never…
Every time I need to tweak something on my work mac, I'm irked by the title of the settings pane. What every computer interface has referred to as "settings", Apple chose to rename "preferences". Settings implies a certain relationship between us and our tools. You set the fuel / air mixture of a carburetor for…
I’m sitting in a cabin in Port Austin, Michigan, the very tip of the thumb. I woke up to the sounds of the lake, small waves crashing ashore beneath our back porch. Every few seconds, another crash. I could feel my body sway with the tide as it crashed in and rolled out, crashed and rolled, crashed and rolled. My…
Hoje eu tava mt ocupada de manhã. O que me traz para o texto do dia quase 22hrs. Meu processo tem sido assim: abro aqui e escrevo o que tem na minha cabeça. Por isso que alguns textos ficam parecendo um bolo que deu errado, mas tô curtindo. Bom, comecei a morar sozinha em dezembro de 2021. Eu já tinha morado fora da…
Today I had dinner with the marketing head of a client of mine. We had nice conversations but one thing particularly struck me: How genuinely helpful and supportive she was. In the course of the evening she proactively offered help and support on several topics, without expecting anything in return. I'm always…
I got in to a discussion with a friend about some bill that was signed into law in Florida that, depending on your political orientation, either (a) made it illegal to talk about being gay in classrooms, insinuating that anyone who supported it is a homophobic bigot, or (b) was an attempt by concerned parents and…
I lay on the mat staring up at the kaleidoscopic reflections on the ceiling. I pictured the next thing I could do at that moment. I pictured an event that could follow that, and another to follow that, and I whizzed around and around until I caught myself, and I realized I was Telescoping. In the next few moments, I…
Before we get to answering this question, let's preface that by saying the media always blames social media companies for ruining our focus and attention span and giving us depression and anxiety. I think that's wrong. I believe we're doing it to ourselves because we followed our instincts of the need for dopamine.…
"What's your name?" One encounters this question in an ever declining frequency. As you add years, the frequency of the question reduces. Recollect the moment you answered with pride with your chest bloated Pronouncing your name. As one ages, one takes increasing offense if asked "What's your name?" So courtesy comes…
Sabe aqueles momentos um pouco antes de acordar que a gente fica pensando no dia, nas coisas que tem pra fazer, no que vamos comer, se está sol, com quem temos que falar? Pois então, hoje o principal pensamento foi "o que eu vou escrever no nicheless?". E tive várias ideias, o que não é comum. Geralmente eu escrevo…
My journey started as a crypto enthusiast with the purchase of $5000 of Ether in early 2017. It jumped from $50-$75 a token or something to that extent in a month. I immediately pulled out my money and purchased a 2010 Red (slightly dented) Honda Civic named "Fireball" from a local college kid. My friends would later…
Recently, the Indian Supreme Court deferred the decision on mandating a policy for menstrual leaves for women to the Central Government. This raises a critical question: At the current stage of India's growth journey, what's more important? 1. Bringing more women into the workforce? 2. Ensuring the best workplace…
I was in Italy for a week and just got back to Cambridge, UK. Arriving at the train station and driving through the city to my apartment in an Uber was a nice experience. A city I visited for the first time only three months ago, which felt so foreign back then, now feels so familiar. I recognize the routes, can…
Vivi a última noite numa pista cheia de gente feliz e fervida. Encontrei amigos e conhecidos que não via há tempos. A música era boa. Dancei com a Ludo, Nino, Raquel, Guima e Chiara. Os DJs Vermelho, Davis, Âme&Dixon. Entortei de vez para o techno. Dancei. Derreti. Tomei cerveja bem gelada. As luzes estavam bonitas,…
In honor of my birthday today, I'm giving you a gift. I’m sharing the knowledge I've gained in 65 years around the sun. Regardless of your age, you wll benefit from the lessons I've learned. Sunscreen. Lesson: I grew up in the baby oil sunbathing era. You can spend your money on sunscreen or frequent dermatologist…
I finally jumped onto the startup bandwagon towards the end of 2021 at the time when offices were sending emails to their employees about opening up. It occurred to me then that if I did not do this, then the only choice left to me would be to go back to the corporate world. I decided to start my own corporate world…
I will miss these views. the sunrises. how the trees shake and sway in the wind during storms. But i also miss the warmth of the sun and the green of the trees above me when I laid down on the blanket in the park. The way the sun would cut back and forth behind leaves. I miss sitting outside sipping from a glass with…
From Write of Passage, Peek-a-Boo and Pocket Pool - https://www.shirleyfrivera.com/blog/peek-a-boo-and-pocket-pool - the following are edited excerpts "... where what you saw was not quite the complete reality of what it was." COFFEE BREAK ... awarded an unprecedented salary increase. Cornered by a Principal in a…
i'm trying to understand what it is that i so admire in a person i will name people i admire and see if i can spot a pattern: (1) M - truly conceited - has a dream, has a plan (and carries it out, somewhat) - content - telepathic understanding (2) H - truly conceited - has many dreams, many plans (AND CARRIES THEM…
I wake up at 6:47 AM and the first thought is: I'm not going to smoke today. The second thought, three minutes later while I'm already on the balcony with a cigarette between my fingers, is: Well, fuck. It's not like I forgot. I remember saying it yesterday—actually saying it out loud to myself while brushing my…
today i did yoga whilst fantasizing about being "LA rich" being "LA rich", I would do yoga outside, absorbing heat from the sun like a reptile do yoga inside, cozy-style lounge about, read go on "reading vacations" at bed & breakfasts in Big Sur eat salads, drink wheatgrass shots drive around in a sexy stylish…
You’re likely familiar with the rebuke to “be present!” wielded whenever someone draws for their camera or smartphone during a dinner or a vacation. Think about how many people you know who “hate Instagram” because it’s “so fake.” Granted, between the daily Starbucks chroniclers, new human/ plant/ pet parents, sunset…
It hit me today. The realization didn't hit me like a ton of bricks. (Like some people would say.) But it did arrive to my conscious awareness. What am I talking about? Well, the fact that people don't do that of taking time and space out of their mundane routine. Like what I can write in the following paragraphs can…
Imagine if technology treated our attention as sacred rather than a resource to extract. Imagine if technology was accountable to those affected by it rather than to those who profit from it. Imagine if technology helped us make better choices rather than incubating helplessness in the face of catastrophe. Imagine…
I have always struggled to read books and I'm not talking just about the textbooks. No matter with how much enthusiasm I buy a book, the completion rate of reading a book used to be very low for me. However, this year I experienced a major shift in approach towards building a habit of reading. I wanted to summarise my…
I understand they happen to be there because it's cheaper and simpler, but what a tasteless and generic place to put them. Lighting can be beautiful if you set the sources gracefully. Indirect lighting can make a magic atmosphere and functional lightning can be a great tool depending on your goals. But "one light bulb…
Meus planos de ver meu sobrinho deram errado porque alguém decidiu que "não é o momento". Como eu não sou a mãe e não tenho papéis com decisões jurídicas, fica difícil bater de frente para impor minha vontade. Eu sempre digo: certo pelo certo. Tem que ir atrás das burocracias, os acordos precisam estar assinados por…
Here's an idea. Record player Pomodoro timer. I'm sure you've heard of the Pomodoro productivity technique where you do deep work for 25 minutes, then take a 5 minute break, then back to 25 minutes of deep work. You repeat this rhythm for your allotted time, until you get the project done, etc. It allows for a good…
"Take care, there's a 30 zone here," my father reminded me. We were driving through a generic German suburban street, wide and well maintained. There were nice and wide sidewalks on both sides of the road, bordered by a red stripe of a bike lane. Slowing down to 30 km/h made me feel strange, expecting some imminent…
I did NOT prepare to tell my supervisor I was no longer going to to continue being part of the team... and this is what happened: - I told them it was because of a team mate (which is ultimately not true, no matter how hard they are to understand and work with). - I told them so many things out of my ass,…
Two weeks ago I turned 24. I’ve been using this time to try and figure it out what to do with my life. I feel lost and with no clear purpose right now, but at the same time I know that I got to take advantage of my age and try a lot of different things to find out what to do. I don’t know where to start but I’m…
I received a text saying, "Hey, Keshav! I had spoken to you about an internship at Goodread", a couple of days back. On the out-front, it seems correct, but there's one massive problem here. To set the context: I work at a company called Goodera. I had initially reached out to the person and progressed through the…
As a child, it felt that entertainment was prioritized over love. Not the commercialized love but the true essence of caring for one another. True love, for some, lays at the end of a long path of healing from childhood trauma as well as adulthood trauma. How can one show compassion to a world that has only made it…
People don’t like getting sick, but I do. Getting something like the cold has several stages. First, there’s the feeling that it’s coming. Then you’re actually sick—the low point. After a while, you start getting better. It’s the getting better part that makes me like getting sick. Why is it enjoyable, exactly? You…
Why bother so much about not making a mistake - like KS. The point of this life is to make as many as possible. The way of saying “what’s the point of playing Sudoku if you don’t even bother getting it right or wrong” - is actually not the essence of life. The point of life is to make as many mistakes as possible -…
Complexity will make you successful 不该认真的时候不要太认真 幽默才能过得更久 所以有时太认真 看清更多事实 会更难生存 (analogy - if you see every each dust in the particles you won’t feel good) Another thing is do it now. Or think it now. What is the thing that you don’t feel like doing but you think you SHOULD’VE been doing… don’t think. Just do it!
