Gathering thoughts…
A world of little thoughts.
Wife, after sharing second thoughts about starting a new job: "Do you think they're the kind of people who would hire a woman just because she's a woman?" Me: "Wondering whether you're the benefactor of affirmative action feels kind of gross, doesn't it?" Wife: "Ugh" I should note that the Hebrew term for that…
We waste too much time waiting. We wait for the clock to strike the perfect 9 AM, 10 AM, 2.30 PM, or 11 PM to resume work after a break. We'll scroll through a few more reels if there are 3 minutes to 5.30 PM. I used to do that while studying. I would arbitrarily take a break and then resume at half past something.…
ahhhhhh a reoccurring shape i use in creation is a sphere. why do i use it? the reason derives from a quote by Andrea Branzi "the distance between the natural world and artificial world no longer exists today, because the latter has become second nature". this quote resonates with me, i exists both naturally and…
When our needs are met we ascend to a higher plane of living. When animal needs are met they are at peace. What pulls us forwards is a never ending hunger. More information, more food, more love, more art. That is why we will never be at peace. When our need for safety and food is met, a new void opens up. And so the…
Ontem eu li "O Jovem", da Annie Ernaux, em que ela narra sua história de amor vivida aos 54 anos com um homem 30 anos mais jovem. Achei o livrinho de uma beleza extraordinária, onde ela não fala apenas da história sobre os dois, mas dos desejos femininos e dos preconceitos que sofremos como mulher. Para ela, não era a…
I like to set some life goals for me, my husband, our little family. I set long term goals; I set short term goals. Very short ones, even. Like, what is our checklist on a random Saturday? Our goals last Saturday were doing laundry, taking Alia on a swim, and enjoying some hotpot for dinner. And we were right on…
It's that time of the year again. The one when folks from the US gather around turkey and a special meal to be thankful for what they have and count their blessings. I say it like that because even though I'm not from there and I don't celebrate those dates, I still keep the idea behind it to put it into practice with…
(original: 2010 August 03) i connect dots. random? NO. shuffling around of dots? ALWAYS. including people? YES. mindmapping in motion ... i often find myself connecting events, information, people, and activities that seem unrelated to some but are (or should be) related. back in 1995, i called it POE's Corner -…
Have you ever have conversations You think you wants to be ready before And you slight regretted you only get to think of what you think and should’ve said One minute after what you said. You can only be ready When you keep thinking about it When your mind is occupied about the thing You can’t let yourself caught off…
ahhhhh i feel to create a more relatable design it helps to introduce imperfection. it provides the end user to continue the process of creation making the outcome more unique...
Disclaimer : this might feel like a let down if you were expecting profound insights. Assumption : increased screen time reduces the evolutionary fitness of a person (yes yes that is debatable) Children who have had seizures are advised to restrict their screen time, because flickering lights can induce a seizure…
Ahhh 🔁 iteration; continuous testing of an idea until one finds perfection in design. ironically perfection does not truly exists, but iterating on an idea can get design to a point that is almost perfect. i find the most relatable design does not strive to be perfect, yet it it gets so close that allows others to…
During the recent LYT workshop, after I shared about fruitfulness, below is an ABRIDGED version a colleague's perspective about productivity and fruitfulness - Productivity is all or nothing. You are only productive if you complete the task and achieve the desired outcome. Fruitfulness is a way of looking at your…
Just had an appraisal. My Project Manager predicted I’m just going to be a senior planning engineer in 35 years. That’s crazy, I don’t think I have the time for that. What I realised is no matter how good you be at; your position will only dictate you to be at certain levels. Set clear on your goals; remember:…
I started this year, finding out my supposed boyfriend had a pregnant finace. It was a nasty experience, but I had to forgive myself and forgive him to forge ahead.
Something of vanilla, bourbon, and lingering notes of all the versions of you that lived in this cloth. Yesterday, I thought it was over. I'm not quite sure what happened, I must have been too consumed with all of you that I felt within the coat that I didn't even notice the button, second from the top, loosen between…
There are many things you automatically do better at, if done a second time. For me, when writing a piece of software, I get it all wrong the first time. It may work, but I can see how the code could be written in a cleaner and more effective way. If I get the chance to do it over, the result is better, and it doesn’t…
never have i actually made an elevator speech. in my past life as an insurance sales exec, we learned the art of the elevator speech--a succinct product pitch short enough to share with a stranger in an elevator. i want to believe i've honed the art of brevity in anything; i am, after all, writer of flash and micro.…
Recipe: lots of awareness and curiosity on how your backside contributes to your movement, a bit of tension in your lower abs, lots of micro exercises to train your mind, and a couple medium-hard workouts. Took 2-3 weeks, not much time every day. Result: My body feels more alive, my back hurts less. This morning it…
Curiosity Motivates. And when it’s satiated, the motivation dissipates. Motivation is a minor fuel injection — it simply helps course correct. It’s what the coach uses in the locker room to bolster the team for the second half. It's the climax for the movies. It's cinematic. But it doesn’t sustain. Follow through is…
The idea is pretty interesting. I always loved to do some similar thing as my personal blog. Though may I do so, since Nicheless is a micro-blogging platform. The best things about Nicheless in my opinion are its neat UI design, simple white theme by default and suckless UX as a blogging platform. The lack of "numbers…
recentemente, recebi a notícia de que estava com uma infecção em decorrencia de um corpo estranho no meu corpito tão territorialista e fechado. toma-lhe dez dias de antibiótico. nesse meio tempo, viajei pro mato grosso, ponto central do brasil, para um evento sobre sementes. uma loucura de calor na rua + frio nos…
Such a stupid word, really. Disappointment. According to Oxford, "sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment of one's hopes or expectations." While I've never enjoyed the spotlight during recognition of accomplishments, even birthdays, I learned pretty recently how greatly disappointed I feel when my…
OK. Here's my attempt at using nicheless. What I like: + The minimalistic UI + No-fluff usability; even lack of formatting! + Lack of media and all that comes with it Few questions though + Would it help increase my writing? Is there less pressure due to the smaller word limit? Can I aim for a post a week? + Would it…
& control your own. Emotions, Your time, Your relationships, Your mental strength. Know the cards if you want to play the game Then you won’t feel anxious or feeling that the world is against you Know that the world won’t be pretty with people First important skills: learn how to deal with different people And what…
I started writing around 2016. So its been about 6 years now, roughly. I started writing when I was a frustrated, depressed and angry college student. Writing saved me. If I hadn't put pen to paper, I don't know what would have happened to me. It feels like I am in a similar place in life now. Where I feel the need to…
Hello World. There's a few areas in my life that I'd like to grow and evolve. Recently, I've been on a personal development journey on and off for the past two years. I happened to find this site on Twitter a few days ago and I was intrigued. In this chapter of my life, I would like to document my journey along the…
On our first day in Washington, D.C., we woke up to rain. My family turned to me. “What are the plans?” I love planning. Vacations, menus, my daily schedule, planning my new Substack newsletter, any kind of planning. There’s satisfaction in looking at all the possibilities. Plans make me feel safe. Details and options…
4 days before I was gonna move into my dorm I got the news that I'll be having to move 8 days later from what I expected, my first reaction was frustration. Everything was already planned, already in order and now I had to deal with it. I guess I'm very lucky that I don't have economical problems and I can just book a…
So it's my turn of having a car that will remain mostly unused in the parking lot of my building, as I work from home. Never thought I would ever have a car, because I don't need one, but the hard winter of Canada, the long waiting time for public transportation in the cold, and the hassle that is now using the car…
There are roughly 2 kinds of societies in the world today. The first which puts the society before self and the second which does the opposite. Typically, eastern cultures demonstrate the former and western cultures demonstrate the latter. It's hard to compare the two as they both have their upsides and downsides, but…
Digitalization has become an epoch: a legend of our time, promising leverage, access, and a cure for systemic inequities. Policymakers and companies alike present it as a universal solution: once technology is introduced, progress will follow. And in many cases, it has; making industries more efficient, records more…
people want to have good intentions. and often, they do. but as with all things human, the reality is blurrier than that. we ourselves can be tricked by these intentions. disguised as selfless, acts of kindness can be like a shield from responsibility. how quickly we devolve from the purest aims to bitterness and…
Many eloquent words will have been spoken and written around the world today about this tragic day in Liverpool FC's history. Best just to use those of Rodgers and Hammerstein here. When you walk through a storm Hold your head up high And don't be afraid of the dark At the end of a storm There's a golden sky And the…
HAVE I SAID ALL I HAVE TO SAY? Do those I love know the depth and history of that love, and that it persists beyond dimensions? Why am I waiting to tell them? Am I waiting for perfection before sharing my thoughts in writing or via speeches? What opportunity will I lose if the moment passes? HAVE I DONE WHAT I HAVE TO…
Lately I've been struggling to stay focused. Without missing a beat, the first piece of unsolicited advice I got was to try meditating. Then again. Meditation. Whether you're depressed, distracted, grieving, stressed out, anxious or, well, pretty much anything these days, you can rely on someone nearby who won't shut…
Emotionally-charged, moralizing content wins the virality lottery most often: - For each "moral-emotional word" used, content receives between 17-24% more engagement. - Moral anger and disgust increase virality across the political spectrum. - Content that’s written in more divisive, inflammatory language is…
i've started many projects over the last two years. but guess how many i've completed? zero. that got me thinking, why is it tough to stick to things that i like? what is stopping me from having fun? why am i expecting something in return, when i just wanna build cool shit? i guess part of the reason is, i need…
last night i slept worse than i have in months. i mean i’ve been sleeping like shit since we landed on this rock but last night the pain just took over me. the night before, i snuck out on my own to see if I could figure out what the orb was composed of. i thought, if i could just get close enough to chip off a shard…
pulled the thread of despair i took to bed last night, the "why bother?" that hovered, unbidden, writing roadblock 97, the one that combines worthiness with approval, the one that questions whether anyone reads anymore, if the world needs another cooking story, the one that tells me i can't for so many reasons. pulled…
We need a place in between Twitter and newsletters. We know that people want to be share in a variety of formats, a variety of lengths, a variety of fidelities. But the fact that no single platform currently allows this shows the vast opportunity for online social media to evolve. Who decided that a social media…
I am writing bits and pieces of content since 8th class. First they were rewritten stories that I read or heard or my own addition or subtraction from it. Then, when I observed writing poems means you can become popular in school bus, I started writing those. But, even if I wanted to write half decent poems, they…
Phone service, internet, electricity, hot water and all these things that are used to, that we use everyday, the change of not having them from one day to another is drastic. Yesterday, a huge storm approached and I hasn’t stopped since then, it took all of those things away from my house, it was 1 am and in my mind I…
We just escaped from the loud club. We had just celebrated your birthday there but it wasn’t your environment. Apparently you once lived a party life, but I hadn’t seen that side of yours, you had put all that behind you. Our drunk friends took an auto. We decided to walk it. I was sober enough, I am fucked up on the…
A Vanessa, uma das minhas melhores amigas, completava 9 meses de gravidez enquanto eu fazia as malas para viajar para São Paulo. "Segura o Dante, eu estou chegando", avisei já ansiosa para conhecer o bebê. Fui visitá-los tão logo cheguei ao Brasil, no entanto o Dante continuava tranquilão no útero da mãe sem denotar…
I struggled with mental health issues for many, many years. They have been compounded by a stubborn insistence on "figuring it out myself." Over the last few years, I have finally started making progress, and I'm mostly healthy, happy, and more understanding. Over the last few months, I've been diving back into…
Jack in Titanic Doesn’t care how rich Rose is Every phase of Jack’s life there is a best version to live the life There’s no point worrying and feeling self abasement for yourself Work towards it & there’s a way to live out of poverty Feeling bad is just the easy way It doesn’t mean you stop being someone caring…
Our friends say they’ve experienced a lot of goodbyes and they used to not bother even saying hello until they learned that there’s a possibility you see each other again and that possibility makes the hello and intermittent goodbyes worthwhile. But there are many people I miss who I will never see again. The feeling…
