Gathering thoughts…
A world of little thoughts.
Empathy. Extremely important in the care industry. “You know you’re not being empathetic enough if the person in front of you ain’t crying” - I have always heard. As part of my day job, I am not supposed to be anyone’s therapist, but I end up needing to demonstrate empathy. When I was younger, I stuck to canned…
1. find a dark crevice to escape to. under your bed, behind a heavy curtain, in your closet, on a long walk in the middle of the night. usually its scary when you can’t see anything around you, but in these moments, let the emptiness of this blank palette make space for your racing mind. 2. notice the colors. the 8…
ahh imagine a space to experience music that is not physical. the whole are becomes a visual representation of the music playing. vivid colours and shapes form in response to the music. smooth surfaces for a love song, a sharp point for a heartbreak, or even drops dripping to the floor in a puddle over a loss. this…
being the nice guy is not going to get you anything. you think you are doing people good but no you are just killing yourself bit by bit. people will go on doing what they want to do. hurt you. worse, not even care about you. people are just trauma. you got to be an asshole to get what you want. put your own needs…
There is a way to do it better If something is wrong Fix it - don’t let it gone by and just let it cruise - take in charge of the ship And find a way to guide yourself to the correct path. Apply discipline - and make sure that you’re doing the right one As small as - or should I say ESPECIALLY the small details. (Like…
I was robbing myself by multitasking. I thought by multitasking, I was getting more done. I could check off the boxes and move on to ... more multitasking. Every task was stressful. I was robbing myself of enjoying the process of completing any task. Now I’m consciously trying to be present in what I choose to do at a…
I wake up at 6:47 AM and the first thought is: I'm not going to smoke today. The second thought, three minutes later while I'm already on the balcony with a cigarette between my fingers, is: Well, fuck. It's not like I forgot. I remember saying it yesterday—actually saying it out loud to myself while brushing my…
Forever can be broken down to a bunch of nows but can there be multiple nows? No matter how much you conquer you will always be beaten by the last second, the last mile and eventually the last breath. Which begs the question of what you really own. 20 minutes into meditation and i cannot tell whether the arms i’d…
When I was a sophomore in high school, I got pulled aside by my physics teacher after turning in a paper on the internal combustion engine. He asked me who wrote it. "Huh?", I responded, genuinely unsure of what to expect from this interaction. "This paper is far beyond the level of technical detail expected for your…
Finally got around to this project after buying the cigar box at a thrift store a few months ago. All the rest of the parts I had around from other builds/mods. I’ve modded a few guitars now but I think I might be most proud of this one. It wasn’t a struggle the entire build, only took me 3 days in total, and best of…
Every some years, a band comes from left field and knocks your socks off. You have no expectation of them, maybe you'd never heard of them before. Leaving aside the bands of my early growing up years, bands or artists that have had that effect on me have included The Talking Heads, The Stone Roses, Nick Cave and the…
i feel like ppl who doesn't know how to write, write "poetry" i want to try reading the bell jar even tho i'm against reading books by depressed people since depressed people can only speak from the point of view that life is pointless but i want to know what the fuss is about and i want to know how to dismiss it in…
i used to think that i am a programmer. i have friends who think they are programmers or designers or editors or traders etc, and i don't think that's a great way to describe yourself. i think a better way to describe yourself is to say that you are a problem solver, and i don't mean go be an entrepreneur, just think…
i'm losing the faith that i can ever really be ordinary in the ways i wanted to be ordinary but i hope to at least be extraordinary in the ways i want to be extraordinary i'm gettin a feelin that i want to look at megan boyle's birth chart
Last year, I worked on a little project to figure out what we needed to do as a society to prevent us from making our planet unliveable. I took an inevitable deep dive into the climate crisis only to realise that fossil fuel consumption and the resulting runaway warming of our planet is a mere symptom. That trying to…
It is important to intervene when you get into a negative self-talk rabbit hole. It happened to me today: "It's 5 pm! No haven't been 'productive'" "What are you doing? The client is billing you!" In these times, you need to ask the sergeant to relax. I call this alter-ego, the Sergeant. Intervene in the following…
It’s true - believe in the power of attraction Who you mix with take the average of 5 and it’ll become you E - said he’s becoming less ambitious Which is true I think it’s because he’s been working from home Read books and know people That will inflame your fire Like how you mix with G And know Y&and her dad. These…
I strongly believe that three engineers in one room can accomplish far more than six engineers working remotely. This isn’t just about communication bottlenecks—it goes deeper than that. I've been working from home for ten months now, a significant shift after spending nine years in an office with my colleagues. Even…
You might be sitting at a restaurant with a friend. The check comes, and your dining partner reaches for his wallet. "No, no," you kindly remind him, "it's my turn." This reciprocal gesture may be well-intentioned, but it immediately triggers a sense of disappointment bordering on offense. "Don't turn this into a…
Is to apply HARDWORKING THOUGHTS! And to be prepared! You’re good at last minute changes cos you had to. But planning on the goal to success is what’s important right? Having that vision - and combine knowing what and how to adapt based on different circumstances. If you study just one day earlier - you could’ve…
Do you ever have one of those moments when the storm clouds part, clarity strikes and for a split second, you are able to join the dots? It happened to me yesterday reading an excellent long form piece by John Kolko on Abductive Reasoning. (http://www.jonkolko.com/writingAbductiveThinking.php) No, I hadn't heard of it…
Project management is common sense. There, I said it. Thanks for reading. The default path requires us to be certified in this or that, otherwise, how could we possibly know what to do? I’ll tell you how - use your common sense! Project management is not a skills based exercise. There are set outcomes expected that…
I expect that someone in my family will be on Mars in the next 10 generations. After all, I'm part of a tribe that travels. My ancestors were constantly on the road, exploring opportunities for their next generation and the ones that come after. It's baked into my genes. But it presents a conundrum. What mindset,…
What is it about being drunk that fills you with a sudden zest for life? What is it about being drunk that helps you remember that you love people?
I took this picture last year as we were walking on our way to the Mukteshwar Temple in Uttrakhand. The pathway leading to the temple was full of vendors selling their farm produce. Many emphasized the fact that these products were grown organically without the use of pesticides, which was the main reason we stopped…
I stuck with the same hair colour throughout 2022. I started my new year continuing with petty thoughts. I basically saw an insta post of S, which said she was “serving looks”. And all I could think of was “can’t believe N is allowing you to dress up well and not feel bad about it” I have very very uncharitable angry…
Human cognition is characterized by the ability to distinguish one thing from another. It is built in to the deepest recesses of our evolutionary past. Predator or prey? Will this plant nourish me or kill me? Is he my friend or my enemy? As our consciousness gradually evolved to grasp ever more abstract and useful…
In the debate over freedom of expression with regard to blasphemy, I find it absurd when the argument is made, usually in response to some Muslim fanatic going on a murder rampage, that "well Christians try to censor expression too." I just don't think there exists a reasonable argument to be made that there is any…
Depois de uma noite agitada (dormi 1h40 da manhã fazendo coisas completamente dispensáveis) e sonhos sugestivos com uma pessoa aleatoríssima (alo chefe do restaurante do porco em sp rs) acordei com uma crise alérgica. coceira pelo corpo, olhos inchados, pontadas aleatórias e espirros. tem dias que são assim né? será…
ahhh quickly sketching out ideas makes me think of how 'real' that idea can become. if the sketch is too perfect to begin with, then that idea is generally not special enough. it is the ideas which start out murky that have the most potential, because they tend to be in a realm where they do not exist yet.
A future belonging to all. Not one. All. No countries. Only administrative borders. Signals of hope. No past. Now and forever.
I have doubts now and then. I sometimes doubt that I could make something work as I get deeper into the domain. I sometimes doubt myself about whether or not I could success. I sometimes doubt myself about whether or not what I am doing will turn out to be successful. I doubt myself everyday. But that's natural. I…
As human organizations grow in size and complexity, they tend toward selecting for conformity over competence. If unchecked, this tendency can lead to ruin. Why does this happen? In order for the organization to be effective in pursuing its goals, the proportion of individuals tasked with making strategic decisions…
i kind of want my job back. i want to play and teach the piano again. SIGH fuck. get writing. get writing.
Take it in things that’ll RELATE to you - Not trying to remember all details that you’ve seen - like literally EVERYONE Yes it’ll be good to notice things that people don’t But focus on the right ones Smartness is all about relevancy (One good example is directions, maps are everywhere but relatable to you; people…
If my body had a group chat during a run, it would be pure chaos. Legs: “We’re tired.” Brain: “We literally just started.” Lungs: “Who approved this pace?” Heart: “Guys, chill. We’re fine.” Stomach: “No, we’re not. That banana was a mistake!” By kilometer two, everyone’s arguing. Legs threaten to leave the chat. Brain…
I'm terrified of this one word. It's just one word but contains an unknown universe within. A universe that I am part of, that I live in, yet that which I want to get out of. I was born into this realm and I continue to live within this reality. Even death does not seem to be a meaningful escape from this multiverse…
"The clear breakthrough for me Was realizing everyone I was admiring online, spent most of their time creating and engaging offline" - @hipcityreg There's a french expression that goes "goutte d'eau qui fait déborder le vase" which effectively translate to "the last drop to make the vase overflow" and that's what…
Do what is right for your mental energy - preserve it. It’s what they called dopamine or shit like that - why you used to “addicted” to mindless social media and scrolling. It’s like how you are behaving yesterday when you got home and just scroll on entertainment. Subconsciously your mind and body tells you that you…
Alright, guess the calendar block did not help at all. Let me not bore you with the details of inconsistency. But one of the reason why I start with this is because all around me in social media, everyone seemingly makes habit building a really easy task to achieve. I really want to put my genuine self of struggling…
exercise & study (like a language) can improve energy levels. No more “I’m tired” mentality. Say “this is hard mode” and this can affect 精神状态 Remove toxicity around you
Emerson wrote, “It is a great terror to be known.” We are terribly scared of the only thing that we want the most. Mostly because we don’t know what looking within is like. Most of us forget ourselves. Most of us never remember to walk to ourselves. We are enormously afraid of knowing our own self. Its easier to never…
I don't really know what to write about. I just like the look and feel of this thing, and rather than thinking about what my first post here should be, I figured I'd rather just write whatever comes to mind. Even if it's the weaksauce you're currently reading. This is a pretty cool UX though, as I'm typing this I like…
One gets a sense of a particular culture's deepest anxieties by examining its curses. Curses are an expression of a culture's most undesirable or objectionable state of being. It's like saying, "here's the thing I would dislike the most, and it's exactly what I wish upon you." The inverse of empathy. The most powerful…
The mind is a curious place. It's a place for ideas, a place for rest, a safe place for the softening of chaos, distress and pain. It is powerful, intense, bewildering and surprising all at once. Most importantly, it stores an immense trove of memories and information, some conscious (and even embarrassing!), but most…
Its not an existential question, more of an introduction if you have stumbled here and thought - "who is this, why should I place any value on what they have written?" Like all of us, I'm many things, depending on how you know me. Personally, I'm a father of two teenagers and husband to a funny and patient wife.…
Started playing Dungeons & Dragons again and Im easing back into being a dungeon master, something I enjoyed as a child. There are two big challenges: Preparation time and wielding narrative tension The reality of playing DnD as an adult is that time is scarce. And preping for a game as a Dungeon master takes up a lot…
I think the hardest thing I’ve had to do is to decide who to be as a creator. Helping others explore and develop their creativity felt much easier than developing my own. There is such joy in standing with another creative and helping them t o aim their creative arrows toward their desired target.…
