Gathering thoughts…
A world of little thoughts.
where do i begin...? all the resolutions i write + lives i dream of + + the girl i try to be + + she's getting a little closer to who i am, each year + + am i changing for the better or is she + in 2023, i want: 1. softness wisdom discipline 2. creative passions and personal goals - pottery, making coffee, doing…
I have been sitting here on my couch for about 45 minutes attempting to write something. I obviously got started (as you are reading this now), but I'm curious about what took me so long. I'm very distracted. So many more things were interesting to me than writing 300 words on this blank page. Here's everything that…
A short one about an interesting sliding doors moment. Louis Menand’s 2021 review in the New Yorker of Glenn Frankel’s “Shooting Midnight Cowboy: Art, Sex, Loneliness, Liberation, and the Making of a Dark Classic” contained a brilliant tidbit. It's believed that a key element contributing to the mood of Midnight…
ahh AI text to image generation tools that are hot topic recently are pushing the boundary of how we can create and iterate. exploring vocabulary and visuals is an interesting topic. its like a new form of poetry. just like centuries ago, there will be many poets but not so many famous poems. i imagine what this new…
Most people don’t know what to do or what is in their future. It’s not easy & that’s meant to be. To do something difficult & to study - that’s a good way of life. You’re kinda okay with the hardness and the toughness of construction industry now. You can literally do anything else! Fail more. And fail quick. Any…
Hello. I have missed the last 2 days of blogging. Sorry. I have been having immense anxiety for the past 2 days. And I think I am in a state where nobody and nothing seems to be helping. The biggest reason for this is because my sense of self worth is tied to my sense of productivity. And I feel like I am productive…
This is by far the most important and most difficult lesson I've learned over the past years. I'm still getting better at it more and more but it's not easy. The whole gist of it is that you should do what you have to do at the time that you have to. Sounds pretty simple but you'd be hard pressed to find someone out…
Muito possivelmente eu não vou manter esse diacho de blog atualizado, mas hoje deu vontade de escrever, de falar com as pessoas e nadar numa piscina de academia. Olha que são 3 hábitos que só me fariam bem. Ao longo dos meus quase 48 anos esperando o ônibus que não vem no meio de uma zona que não conheço muito bem.…
Someone grabs your jacket as you walk by and they won’t let go. Immediately, your senses are heightened. You think this person wants to fight, but you turn around to see a kind smile. Please don’t leave, they say, I see that you are a man of God and I need to know more. A humbling experience. What does it say about…
This is something that came to my mind recently. Mostly because I had to make changes to my usual schedule to better accommodate engagement with other fellow creators and to be available for my client's work. It made me think that routines, as much as they're touted to be the key to success, don't make you a…
I am going to tell her. I feel the emotions flowing all over without the conversation happening yet. But this is the time. And this is the time because yesterday reminded me of why I need to do this: I don't want to feel proud of much I can drink, or think it's awesome that over people drink a lot, or that normalizing…
Tô aqui pensando nas minhas relações familiares. Complexas demais, cheias de camadas que compõem o que eu sou hoje. Camadas de que? Aí eu já não sei, vou ficar devendo essa definição fechada porque eu acho que depende muito do dia. Podem ser camadas de rochas impenetráveis e perigosas, ariscas ou montadas como…
Alguien regresó diciendo: "He visto al lobo estepario, lo ví, existe"... Había un lobo jovén y fuerte, el futuro líder de la manada. Pero un día, el lobo decidió dejar la manada y se marchó, caminó durante días. Al final, llegó a un lugar hermoso, con montañas, ríos y bosques. El lobo se quedó allí. Un día, una manada…
To quote John Biggs: "Ok now what." Seriously though, I like this vast empty space with just a black text thing. Good stuff.
Here's an idea. Record player Pomodoro timer. I'm sure you've heard of the Pomodoro productivity technique where you do deep work for 25 minutes, then take a 5 minute break, then back to 25 minutes of deep work. You repeat this rhythm for your allotted time, until you get the project done, etc. It allows for a good…
& control your own. Emotions, Your time, Your relationships, Your mental strength. Know the cards if you want to play the game Then you won’t feel anxious or feeling that the world is against you Know that the world won’t be pretty with people First important skills: learn how to deal with different people And what…
The Hidden Costs of Too Many Choices An abundance of choice can seem like a luxury, but it often undermines our happiness. It might sound counterintuitive, but having too many options can be paralyzing and even make us miserable. Think about it: life was simpler for our great grandparents, who lived in close-knit…
Have a different flavour One room has mismatched socks Another, discarded earrings And yet another a space on a pillow. The kitchen is silent too Empty vessels that make no sound Wine and water turned to stains On spoons and rims of glasses. And the flowers on the balcony Nod silently And bloom regardless. December…
In February 2024, I opened an account on 750words.com — a private journal for free-writing, where the goal is simple: write at least 750 words, every day. As I typed, I noticed a short lag between pressing a keyboard key and the letter appearing on screen. The lag was subtle, but erratic enough to start grabbing my…
I am currently in the random situation of helping a big German influencer film the first episode of her new podcast sponsored by Spotify and I‘m extremely surprised by how incompetent she is and how little of a clue she has. It’s crazy how far you can go by just acting competent. It’s all about the attitude.
There are moments that we don't really feel proud of, moments or decisions that come as an reaction to something, for example, responding in a certain way, with a certain tone of voice, but it just comes out of us. These moments as well as many other might it be good or bad experiences and reactions are still part of…
Teachers. Parents. Friends or colleagues But the one that can teach you is experiences Your own experiences and mistakes So never feel like you’ll not where you meant to be - you are! Use time wisely and explore else you’ll miss out the opportunities Of just being yourself And feeling confident Anxiety - everyone…
Control: it’s such a strong power. Control your mouth when you don’t feel like saying. Be calm and composed like water. Control your mind when it comes to hardship or when you think of the wrong thing. That’s the difference between you & Bryan - and being a leader takes alot of this character. It’s not a sign of being…
My friend Rahul and I recently exchanged messages praising the 1977 Fleetwood Mac album Rumours, particularly Lindsey Buckingham's gorgeous guitar in Never Going Back Again. Which reminded me of how I started building my CD collection. It was 1989 and I'd just arrived in New York as a student with no cash to spare. I…
The first "fact" that I learnt in childhood was "the sun rises in the east and sets in the west. Our day lies in these two extremes. The window of observation between these two extremes is underrated. As the sun swim towards the west, it paints the world around us in multiple strokes of extravagance. From the pesky…
ahh- no warning, just locked instantly for a set time. no way to dispute until the timer runs out. very frustrating...
讲干话谁不会说? 收买人心 说话技巧 跟逻辑思维 才是王者 Knows peoples intelligence Think of high school - people listens to people like E or outspoken people more Now in adult working life - imagine why you would talk to JJ but not Aug It’s because he’s there for you to listen And people tend to go to the weaker person more if you think about…
Endlessly offering my shoulder for you to lean and cry on, but you always reject it. Endlessly prioritizing you, instead you chose to ignore me. Endlessly understanding you, but you chose to see me as an inconvenience. Endlessly giving you my love, even if I don't get anything in return.
Wife, after sharing second thoughts about starting a new job: "Do you think they're the kind of people who would hire a woman just because she's a woman?" Me: "Wondering whether you're the benefactor of affirmative action feels kind of gross, doesn't it?" Wife: "Ugh" I should note that the Hebrew term for that…
comecei a ouvir leonard cohen. que voz visceral, profunda, né? profound. eu entendo poucas palavras soltas. leio enquanto ouço, então é mais sensorial do que inteligível para mim. the last time I saw you, you look someone older. poxa. hoje tive uma conversa com uma colega de trabalho sobre luto. tudo começou porque um…
We all have sense of self, an identity that we are known for but in reality the sense of self doesn’t actually exist. Your perception and thoughts of the world are born from the environment you are now in and the environment you grow up as a child in. Your character is what you are to others, what you show others is…
I find myself mindlessly following small details around stuff I have no interest in, hour after hour, achieving nothing. It's not just me. We are all flooding our systems with more irrelevant information than ever before, and the more there is the less we can focus on any one piece. This increase in the volume of…
When reading a blog article by Alex West, I stumbled upon this paragraph: "You may be the hero of your own movie, but in everyone else's you are nothing but an extra. You appear and flash on their screen for an instant, and then you're gone forever. No one cares about you. And that thought is liberating. It allows you…
I just read Kim Stanley Robinson's The Ministry for the Future, recommended with great enthusiasm by my friend Rahul. In taking his recommendation, I was following my own recent advice https://nicheless.blog/post/135. Unusual for me was that this was a book of science fiction. Nothing against the genre - I just hadn't…
Eu vi Erycah Badu. Cara, que intensa. Ela é o tipo de pessoa que se fizesse uma seita, eu seria a primeira a entrar. Bruxona, catártica, muito além da mente. Ganhei o show de graça numa promoção do Instagram e não tava botando fé, mas rolou de verdade. Cheguei e falaram que meu nome não estava na lista, mostrei…
Airport Arrival Terminals are a places filled with joy. Families and friends reconnecting, giving each other a warm hug and a kiss. Some, weirdly enough, spraying hand sanitizers as soon as possible. People stand waiting behind a railing waiting to get a glimpse of their loved ones, and as soon as they see them, their…
I wanted to save myself from me. It was a horrifying experience where I was so scared of my life that I wanted to end it because all I could hear myself say was that I am not enough. I started chasing money, power, fame. It then reached a point where I wanted to do everything to prove a point to myself that I am…
Similar or familiar. Like-minded. Something old and new. Wabi Sabi. Perfection. A gift from me to you. Happy memories. Warm fuzzies. Like a nod to the golden. Best friends. Your favourite jumper. Positivity. Feeling eternally soulful. Confidence in dressing. Lace up. Your humble tribe. Where kindness shared, is…
Sim, estou feliz e surpresa com o fato de estar adorando viajar sozinha. A paz imensa que é não ter que ficar justificando, negociando, pensando em outra pessoa além de mim... Não tenho palavras para descrever o prazer disso. Eu vim pra Minas muito cansada. Muito cansada mesmo. Ontem eu dormi a tarde, hoje vou dormir…
Something I have learnt about myself. I was always confused about why I was an F in MBTI. I thought I was through and through T. I overthink all the time, don’t I? But I now realise that I’m very dependent on my feelings, and they really dictate my life. For example, I can think something, it can make a lot of…
Apparently sleeping is really good for when you are sick, so thats what I'm gonna go do now, I'll tell you guys how it goes or if it works :) byeeeee
This is what I'd like to say: "Hey, how are things going with Project X? Do you require more time?" What I have to say is this: "Hey, how are you doing? I just wanted to check in on Project X and make sure everything is running smoothly. The deadline is approaching, so please let me know if you require extra time. :D"…
Hoje uma colega de trabalho me falou sobre o quarto branco do bbb. Fiquei pensando seriamente se eu, enquanto pessoa física, pegasse algumas pessoas, trancasse em um quarto, desse só água e bolacha de água e sal, deixasse eles dormirem no chão, não apagasse as luzes em nenhum momento, colocasse choro de criança e…
i'm reading the kāma sūtra and it is not a great book in the sense that if you were to do what it says to do, you will be further from the goals it promises you'd achieve. (namely, that of taking general pleasure in life) but the kāma sūtra is great as a glimpse into the lives of wealthy indians of an ancient past if…
When we think of the word "slavery," defined as a system of relations in which individuals are compelled to perform labor, it is reasonable to define the inverse as the absence of compulsion. The word most associated with such a situation is "freedom." Closely related but with a more political connotation is the word…
Why are we so willing to change things like our cars or kitchens, yet so reluctant to change our deeply held beliefs or opinions?
So often, children want to be independent. They don’t want help. At my age, I willingly accept help. I’m not afraid to ask for help, either. Perhaps it takes maturity to appreciate and accept the offer of help. Offering help feels good. Help, as simple as holding a door open or picking up a dropped item for another…
Yesterday after being in Europe for 6 months, I experienced a truly short winter day. Which means darkness by 5 PM. It was a strange feeling for someone like me. In India day lengths don't vary so much throughout the seasons. I guess I will get used to it soon.
