Gathering thoughts…
A world of little thoughts.
Tá aí uma coisa que eu me desdobro para cumprir. Não gosto de amigo secreto, karaoke, confra de firma e outras coisas que coloquem na mesma frase colegas de trabalho e festa. E é uma questão. Grande questão. Quem não é visto não é lembrado e toda essa baboseira inventada por uma pessoa claramente extrovertida. Eu me…
When I'm with you, I feel like I'm a thousand feet tall. When I think I've lost you, I feel like I'm dying. I live for all the little moments I spend with you, your smile, your voice, the little curve of your nose and the silly way you make the worst things funny. You are never far from my thoughts. I could write a…
To understand a system, you must define its boundaries, forming its own “universe.” While we often think of individuals as separate from their environment, in reality, they are deeply interconnected. Evolutionary constraints highlight this relationship: organisms are shaped by and respond to their surroundings. The…
Today is my last day at work. Over the past 2 years, I realised for you to excel at anything, you need to give it hard work and time. All of us face the dilemma of making a decision for the future, but have very low threshold of patience. No one in this world became a star overnight. This is hard to digest but is the…
I've always been fascinated by things that don't belong together in any context. Monkeys and forget-me-nots. Pencils and wheels. Embers and bubbles. They don't, have not, and will not belong together in any plausible context. I suppose the magic lies in bringing unlikely beings together, a trope I absolutely adore. It…
There is a lie embedded in the 'architecture of guilt', a lie so elegant it disguises itself as virtue. It says: you must earn your way back. That before you may begin again, you must first account for the wreckage, perform contrition, and prove that you are sorry. Only then, once the debt is settled, once the penance…
I take things too personally. When someone tells me they don't like my photos, my brain says, "I'm such a bad photographer." When someone says, "Your outfit is so plain today," my brain says, "I have no style, I look ugly." When someone points out a pimple, my brain says, "I AM UGLY." Something happened today that…
I keep looking here, but there's nothing here. I can't look away. I come here without thinking. When I realize I've been lassoed again, I feel shame for it. And then I stay, as though I am not the one who is feeling that shame. My mind is divided against itself. Some day, I will look back and realize that this place…
Something was definitely lost when we started calling it content. The catchall quality of the term seems to define a certain type of mindless consumption which makes it difficult to differentiate between the single different bites and ultimately remember any of it. Everything is entertaining, nothing is memorable.
Today we had some memorable encounters with animals we met along the way - one of them was with a herd of highland cows. As we played classical music, they approached us, each displaying unique behaviors - some bold and curious, others hesitant and cautious. Each animal, like us, has a life filled with feelings and…
From Write of Passage, Peek-a-Boo and Pocket Pool - https://www.shirleyfrivera.com/blog/peek-a-boo-and-pocket-pool - the following are edited excerpts "... where what you saw was not quite the complete reality of what it was." COFFEE BREAK ... awarded an unprecedented salary increase. Cornered by a Principal in a…
it would have been cool. me & you, the chance at romance. i think you would like it. i wish -- just let me know.
In the immediate aftermath of the 2020 US elections, Ed Pilkington of The Guardian suggested that US democracy was failing in five key areas: voter suppression, the structure of the Senate, redistricting, the appointment of judges and of course, the electoral college. There's another structural element that…
Being you is therapy to your soul heart and brain .But yes it is not easy and can be lonely most of times! But cherishing your own self your ideals your perspectives of life can be so soothing ! Stop chasing to be like someone who you don’t want to be like . Be YOu & your brain can rest in your skull taxfree
In the wake of the implosion of Twitter, and owing to a long simmering disillusionment in the major social media platforms, I have been actively checking out new communities online. One such community that came to my attention via Hacker News is Nicheless. Thus far I have not dug too deep into it. I like the UI. I…
This blogging platform (the one you are looking at) was created by Louis Pereira, a student in Write of Passage which I was also taking. It is very simple and clean. I like that, so I decided to try it out. I am trying to see how having writing viewed by others changes it. How does having an audience (or even just the…
Historically, overly-extractive business models eventually face pressure from the public, shareholders, and regulators. Once-unstoppable cigarette companies have been forced to pay the public health costs of their products and fund billion-dollar anti-smoking marketing campaigns. The market conditions for renewable…
Oh to stand in the rain without a care in the world. To lie on a warm boulder after a cold swim in the river. To take a cold shower on a hot day. To cozy up by the fire after a midnight dip. To curl up in bed after a long day. To have the fortune of feeling sorrow. To be surrounded by joy. To have a life so peaceful…
The goal: stay within 380 words. I liked a tweet I read yesterday: https://twitter.com/dremilyanhalt/status/1587111368288866311?s=20&t=P90hmJLnVlsM4qxtKkIQ Dr. Emily Anhalt asked men in therapy about their most powerful learning from therapy. I suppose therapy means lots of things, but I'll try one definition: you're…
I think the hardest thing I’ve had to do is to decide who to be as a creator. Helping others explore and develop their creativity felt much easier than developing my own. There is such joy in standing with another creative and helping them t o aim their creative arrows toward their desired target.…
Doomscrolling is a lot like venture capital. You spend countless hours on it, most return nothing. But once in a while, a single post returns the entire fund. Last night, I hit one of those rare jackpots. It was a painfully obvious observation made by a writer I had never heard of. Three dots, sitting in plain sight…
I like to set some life goals for me, my husband, our little family. I set long term goals; I set short term goals. Very short ones, even. Like, what is our checklist on a random Saturday? Our goals last Saturday were doing laundry, taking Alia on a swim, and enjoying some hotpot for dinner. And we were right on…
we started the day with a to-do list of "things we can tolerate doing today plus some things that seem pretty necessary" just items flying out of our mouths - drain, fill, drain, fill, drain, fill water tank - return packages - laundry - replace thermostat and so on and i have done TWO things and now i am taking a…
A spiritual guide once to told me that "God is everything or God is nothing. What was my choice to be?" Once, when leaving a spa, the massage therapist told me "Walk on mother earth as you would want your children to walk on you." My entire life, like so many others, has been a life of spiritual seeking. Even when I…
Be a doer, not ‘JUST’ a thinker 道理: 做/最有效率 - 头脑冲刺 别想 - 做 不做无谓的事情 Acting like the best man in the room Best thing to do - think - ACT! (Reputation matters: for competency. But humanity & symphathy makes it charismatic ✨) Click:: Jump!:: (Remove past thoughts):: Think-forward:: G O! ::think of everything deep::…
Como é bom descobrir alguém novo e gostar. Hoje fui no show da Salma Jo com meu boy com ingressos que ganhei de uma amiga. Ela comprou, mas não conseguiu mais ir. Disse que era porque estaria em outra cidade, mas eu acho que é porque a namorada dela falou que ela tem ido a muitos shows. Isso aconteceu em uma discussão…
I had been thinking about writing this series for a long time, but I just would not manage to find the time to finally sit down and pen my thoughts. I think the procrastination was probably due to being in a constant state of extremes - either of hyper anxiety due to workload, or absolute boredom and laziness due to…
So, what should I write here? Could it become my digital diary, or maybe just a place to spill out my thoughts? It's such a strange time right now... Missile attacks, blackouts, air alerts, no electricity for 3 days in a row. Maybe that's a good time to start something big and something new?
Are we here for power? Are we here for sex? OR Are we here for meaning? When you are born, the consciousness inside of you doesn't know any labels. When you try to look a newborn baby in the eyes you will notice that it's eyes can't focus. It has to learn to interpret certain frequencies into certain colors. I'd say…
Pre-reqs you might want to grok this post: An understanding of IFS-style parts, and of how stopping resisting emotions can let them flourish and give you more freedom. —— I recently found a new emotional processing technique that has been really helpful. When I’m feeling an intense emotion, I consider that emotion to…
I wish they had given me some heads up about life. I wish they knew better about the rat race, and did not nudge towards the same path and mistake the made. I wish I knew better about money, I won't be in the hole I dug myself and I won't be stuck in a job that's draining every drop of life out of me. I wish they knew…
I finally jumped onto the startup bandwagon towards the end of 2021 at the time when offices were sending emails to their employees about opening up. It occurred to me then that if I did not do this, then the only choice left to me would be to go back to the corporate world. I decided to start my own corporate world…
I came across nicheless from a wonderful newsletter I am subscribed to called 'Read Something Great'. The newsletter, hosted on Substack, sends me a 'long read' (blogs/articles that are longform essays taking more than 10 minutes to read) and a 'short read'. Nicheless was mentioned on a 'short read' newsletter from…
To think positively Making the best out of any situation Think even you think about leaving a job E would probably be rational - get better job and income before thinking of actually having no income To think of so many things - and telling people that why do you want to get a job you hate after getting all that…
Some days will be lit. Other days you’ll have to find your fire.
“On a gathering storm comes/A tall handsome man/In a dusty black coat with/A red right hand.” Peaky Blinders fans will know this song. It's the ballad to which the credits are set, typically with Tommy Shelby striding in slow motion through smoke and mud, peak pulled low, overcoat sweeping behind. The song was…
Its not an existential question, more of an introduction if you have stumbled here and thought - "who is this, why should I place any value on what they have written?" Like all of us, I'm many things, depending on how you know me. Personally, I'm a father of two teenagers and husband to a funny and patient wife.…
Lately, I’ve been thinking: home is not a place, a country, or any physical location. Home is a feeling you get around people, people who always welcome you with a warm hug every time you see them and give you a tight hug every time you leave. While some people identify with their country or hometown, I identify with…
i stopped doing the things i started doing to grow. i didn´t track my habits, didn´t do my finances nor did i plan my days. i didn´t eat healthy, didn´t work out or do a lot of productive things. going on the trip with my best friends really threw me off from real life. the five days in which i didn´t stick to my…
During a conversation today I had a bit of difficulty describing what it means to express oneself. After several false starts that kept falling back on circular definitions, eventually we arrived at something that seemed to fit: doing something that makes one feel alive. On the face of it, it seems rather silly to…
it's haunting the extent to which i have gone quiet. last night i opened my instagram after a long time. it's purely an exhibitionist platform, but that aside i've some threads in there. most of them begin to grow quiet around 2018, gradually deafening in 2019 and coming to complete silence in 2020 - when i quit. i've…
Watching the debate on whether we ought not to trust mainstream media between Matt Taibbi and Douglas Murray for the motion, and Michelle Goldberg and Malcolm Gladwell against, I was struck by the ineptitude of the arguments put forth by the team against, particularly by Gladwell. On multiple occasions he insinuated…
Do you have a friend who is in a toxic relationship, and as an outsider, you think, "Why the heck are you still there? Isn't it obvious?" Well, I’ve been on both sides of that situation, and it's easier said than done. As an observer, you don't have any feelings attached, so you look at it more rationally. But…
I have had a very very horrible week. I have been really scared, been overcome by anxiety, crying, etc. But today, I had an epiphany. A revelation of sorts. It finally occurred to me that this just wasn't feeling right. I do not feel respected by the blissclub process. I feel extremely pressured by the timelines they…
i not-so-proudly announce that i am not okay. it is also not okay. but okay.
I am working harder to not let my thought streams dry up. These are the moments that matter to me, the singular blips in time that I wish to hold and cherish. But what are moments but bits of life, sewn together. When I look back at the tapestry of time I've built, I'm troubled by what I see. Glorious highs get lost…
Coming from a small village, it was pretty uncommon to hear people discuss things like wealth, assets, capital etc growing up. It was very strange and unsettling when I met teens from Mumbai. Many of them seemed miles ahead in their business vocabulary and had a strong sense of business more than most of the "biz men"…
Is 'should' an inspiring word? When you say "We should do ...", "let's try to", it comes off argumentative and attempts to remove pressure from oneself. Replace with "I'd like to do", "I'd prefer to". These phrases take ownership and inspire
