Gathering thoughts…
A world of little thoughts.
I have decided that it's time to switch up morning routine. Thanks in no small part to binging Huberman Labs podcasts during the Jamaica trip. Currently, I am a night owl. In bed by 1am. I wake up at 8:30a on "mama-duty" days and 7:30a on "daddy-duty" days.Starting tomorrow, I will wake up at 7:00AM every morning.…
The best mentors are the ones who don't charge for their time. Hear me out. I'm not talking about the ones who make mentoring their main source of income. I'm talking about industry veterans who are passionate about what they do and want to pass on all that they've learned over the years. They've already "made it" and…
…the world would set afire, every time you look in my direction. so there could be an embodiment of what you do to my psyche. you walk into the room and suddenly all i know is how to giggle. and everything disappears, and everything I am that i hold so dear disperses. i’m stripped of all my worldly attachments and i…
Finn lysningen Der trærnes viklende røtter viker plass for himmelen Der solen når helt ned Et åpent rom Et lerret av luft, oppspent i mørk, ugjennomtrengelig skjebneskog Vent her Vær tålmodig som mosen Ta mykt i mot den neste som kommer vaklende ut mellom stammene Vi leter alle etter stien Vi lengter, men vet ikke hvor
Como é bom descobrir alguém novo e gostar. Hoje fui no show da Salma Jo com meu boy com ingressos que ganhei de uma amiga. Ela comprou, mas não conseguiu mais ir. Disse que era porque estaria em outra cidade, mas eu acho que é porque a namorada dela falou que ela tem ido a muitos shows. Isso aconteceu em uma discussão…
I love just how quiet this interface is.
My journey with gratitude grows like wildflowers. It's like a packet of mixed seeds. You don't know what kind until they bloom. My simple gratitude habit bloomed into other complementary characteristics. I’ve often written about how my gratitude practice makes me look for the positive in my life. Something that seems…
This blank page is a promise. It promises, quietly, that if I write my innermost thoughts here with no judgment I will find something of value under the detritus. Will I? I have never been able to sustain writing. I have dried up quickly, as if I saw a mirage of a deep lake and only find once I get close that it's a…
I recently published my first blog post - Learning To Write. Simply put, my plan for learning how to write is to force words out onto paper and see what sticks. Fine, in theory. But how do I put this plan into practice? How do I ensure that in 3 weeks, or 3 months, or 3 years I am still writing? This is an experiment…
Don’t aim to do the easy things. Don’t aim to think the fastest short cuts Think 3 more seconds - work towards the hardest and the best solution always. Remember to not stuck there In solutions Conversations Presenting yourself to others Body language Be fully aware and be putting 100% Say thank you Take initiative…
é preciso cuidar do corpo, das necessidades do corpo. não há possibilidade de conciliação com a natureza antes desse compromisso, é o primeiro passo, é primordial. não adianta cuidar de plantas, mexer na terra e construir teorias contra o fim do mundo se não olhar, primeiro, para o corpo. é nele que são firmadas as…
My birthday is February 14. I have a week to decide what gift I should ask for that is going to define my life. Snowboard pants? A raspberry pi to run a Bitcoin full node? My wife asked me what she should nudge the kids to get me: post-apocalyptic graphic novels or a young adult lit book in Spanish. These are the…
"Don't tell me the moon is shining. Show me the glint of moonlight on broken glass" Chekhov. And there it is. The secret of creativity in 16 words. Sounds deceptively easy... until you look for the glass. In this four part series on creativity, moving from mayhem to magic in your writing (photography, painting or…
When you’re young it’s okay to make mistake Just be brave to get it back up And learn from it Be brave to dream And do what it is that you wanted to do What’s most matter (especially shown in Asian male context) Is your ability and the knowledge you leveraged against others It’s a game of either you know or don’t…
Je me demande comment tout est connecté. La façon dont on se souvient du passé, la façon dont on imagine celui de demain. Comment les échelles interagissent entre elles, de l'individu au groupe à l'état. Au niveau temporel aussi, comment l'histoire influence nos actions, comment celles ci peuvent ensuite influencer le…
This morning I rose at 11AM, which is typical for me on weekends. I did the usual brush and shower. After my first meal of the day, which I suppose would not exactly have been breakfast, I sat at the dining table with a cup of coffee. I felt a need to figure out what I was going to do. Meanwhile, I had begun browsing…
Why do many new age hippies interpret the Buddha's teachings in the wrong way? The moment the Buddha was dying, people were lining up for him. He was sitting under the bodhi tree where he reached his enlightenment. Ready to leave his physical body behind. A man appeared from the crowd and tried to ask the Buddha a…
When my brother and I were growing up, our dad would respond to my brother's "alternative" preferences for how he chose to express himself by rolling his eyes and saying, "whatever floats your boat." This phrase was etched into his mind and, later, into his skin, when he commissioned a tattoo artist to ink a wooden…
I was sitting around and doing some work, and it hit me. This is the best feeling there is. It's the height of existence. Paradoxically, it's the opposite of what we all chase. Everyone wants the easy wins and the pleasures of life. Successful people say they miss the times they had to struggle. What hit me was a…
I am a sucker for new (mostly productivity) apps. Tell me about your latest notes revolution, or calendar, or browser/whiteboard, and I just have to try it. I’m seeking that elusive optimal productivity, while ironically wasting time farting around with the tools rather than actually creating. I’ve noticed this…
Today while walking in the contemporary museum there were so many pieces that I just resonated with, sometimes I would catch myself smiling or even feeling a feeling sadness depending on the emotion that the artist is going for. Its crazy how as humans we can transmit emotions and feelings through storytelling, words…
A friend recently asked me if he should upgrade to business class. My initial reaction was to mock him for spending so much money. It was quite the opposite to what he hoped for - he probably felt because he could now afford to fly business, I'd respect him more. That was not the case, but as I thought about it more,…
reading Holzfällen after reading "the Novelist" by Jordan Castro is a special experience. it is like the same book.
We as a society have always glorified selflessness. Selfless by definition means : concerned more with the needs and wishes of others than with one's own. Whereas selfishness is lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure. We do our jobs because we either like…
Where I'm from, asking your waiter about the ingredients in a dish usually prompts one of two responses: 1) "You can't have this, this, or this. But this and this are safe to eat." 2) "Uh, I'll ask the kitchen and get back to you." While visiting London, I was really surprised that the near universal response was…
As a baby your nervous system isn't fully developed yet. When you feel stress, you need touch. Real touch, soft, slow, friendly, safe touch. You're held by a caring being much larger and stronger than you. The gentle motion and smiling face is comforting to you. You feel the stress ebbing away. As you grow older and…
Please know that it is genuinely okay that people don't want to be in your life or they do not want to get part in one of the event that you're partaking it's totally perfect what you need to do though is be cool about it so when E is saying that i'm a good friend because you still go to a session that you know that…
I write software. I love software. I think software can be beautiful. So then why does it sometimes feel as though software doesn't matter? Perhaps it is because a program by itself is inert. It requires an interpreter to run. This is also true in every day life. A recipe by itself is not edible, unless it's printed…
somewhere for this to live! - my thoughts on loving friends, blurring the platonic (or my exploration into the actual etymological/philosophical origins of the word cause.. i keep wanting to make it include romance.. which i feel is valid rn) --- "friend crushes" and what that even really means/is it a thing -…
This situation has helped me to understand one of the most important truths in life. We do not deserve to be happy. Both deservedness and happiness are human inventions that try to project a fictitious vital image that never materializes and, therefore, generates unhappiness. To explain this point we do not have to…
In the taxi last night, conversation with the driver turned to identity - religious, national, cultural. He was a melange of Middle Eastern, Eastern European and Turkish. I'm Indian with connections to various parts of India. Neither of us was religious or believed in god, but we agreed that religion had value and…
Today morning I awoke with the dial of time cinched around my waist. As I folded my sheets, made my bed, brushed my teeth, I felt the seconds tick around me and subsequently my throat closed up. Not a good thing to happen, especially, when your mouth is full of toothpaste and a brush. Very absurdly I felt like 15…
These throughlines are my five paired strengths - CliftonStrengths and VIA character - serving my five areas of focus, interest, roles - https://nicheless.blog/post/now-%7C-areas-of-focus-interest-roles joy & service . ACTIVATOR + KINDNESS for others and for self health & physical . ARRANGER + GRATITUDE for…
I've often been told that I'm straightforward in my conversations. This caught the attention of my wife who once remarked, "I wish I could be as straightforward as you." It made me wonder if there's a fear of being direct and possibly offending others. When something catches my attention like this, I try to dig deeper…
I’m a big advocate of making the most out of the cards you’re dealt. Take what you have in the current moment and start fixing things. Slowly but surely, and within a reasonable timeframe, you’ll get what you want — or at least you’ll be 2X or 10X better than when you first started. Even if don't get what you want, or…
To be as close to being 100% authentically yourself as possible. It's a small observation that I've seen in any domain that I really dabbled into. When I was in cegep and was pretty big into fashion, you would always start copying others, but the goal was always to "find your own style." To know what you love wearing…
Eu tô tomando duloxetina pra dor crônica. E, sim. É um antidepressivo. Não vou mentir aqui dizendo que não tenho resistência a remédios psiquiátricos. Quando o médico falou eu já virei a cara e perguntei se não tinha outra opção. Levei uma bronca seguida de um sermão da enfermeira desbocada que tava no quarto. "Eu…
ahhh quickly sketching out ideas makes me think of how 'real' that idea can become. if the sketch is too perfect to begin with, then that idea is generally not special enough. it is the ideas which start out murky that have the most potential, because they tend to be in a realm where they do not exist yet.
i'm serious. just let me know. remember myspace surveys? the best part about myspace surveys is that as you fill out your answers, you get to read answers from the person you copy&pasted from and it's so fun to learn about them... https://coffeeandcrows.com/2020/07/13/an-old-school-myspace-survey/ this person is so…
começo de janeiro, hora de fazer as famosas (ou infames) resoluções de ano novo. será? no fim das contas, o que realmente importa é a continuidade. de nada adianta decidir, se na página dois já se abandonar o projeto. é bom decidir mudar, é o primeiro passo, mas que tenhamos a persistência para concluir projetos,…
O ano novo começou em companhia da minha amiga querida Jessica. Pisciana sincerona, vaidosa, generosa e cheia de sonhos, como eu. Falamos mt sobre esses desejos, escrevi alguns em um caderno de folhas brancas onde também tem os últimos quadrados de 2022. Tínhamos planos de cozinhar, mas topamos com todos os mercados…
Imagine if technology treated our attention as sacred rather than a resource to extract. Imagine if technology was accountable to those affected by it rather than to those who profit from it. Imagine if technology helped us make better choices rather than incubating helplessness in the face of catastrophe. Imagine…
i took a nap under the premise of "meditation" and as i laid there i thought: "oh yes is this what meditation is? oh yes it is very pleasant. is it like a dumping out of all the thoughts i'm having? not trying to think but just letting it all out so i can have a clear mind? oh yes it is so nice oh yes i like this so…
my sleep was really poor i blame it on (1) lack of exercise (2) having to sleep next to a person (3) said person "forcing" me to watch movies with him, but delaying the start of the movie until late because he has to "work on something", causing unfavorable screen lights to enter my field of consciousness and…
i think that information consumption is the opposite of navel-gazing; being so afraid of navel-gazing, i went completely the other way, reading books to become aware of others but i think it's good to look both ways; 50-50? i don't know -- to the degree that it feels most enjoyable, maybe navel-gazing vs…
i mean, why not just write it in a private journal? or go the other way and book-publish all your thoughts? just look at sheila heti, publishing a catalogue of thoughts from her diary alphabetized from a-z (she is so busy that she can't even organize them by theme NOT TO BORROW SCHOPENHAUER'S IDEAS LEST HE CALL ME A…
We all have sense of self, an identity that we are known for but in reality the sense of self doesn’t actually exist. Your perception and thoughts of the world are born from the environment you are now in and the environment you grow up as a child in. Your character is what you are to others, what you show others is…
There have been times when I've been told "good job" and it has made me uncomfortable. You'd expect "good job" to be encouraging. I did too. Except, it felt condescending and I never understood why. Until I came across Adlerian psychology and the difference between horizontal and vertical relationships. For the sake…
