Independent Enough?
Living an independent has been the goal. Although I earn, I haven't that goal yet. Let's plan for it. Let's do it.
Gathering thoughts…
Gathering thoughts…
A world of little thoughts.
Living an independent has been the goal. Although I earn, I haven't that goal yet. Let's plan for it. Let's do it.
"He was angry with Jeanie for not having encourage the Laird - He was angry with the Laird for requiring encouragement - and he was angry with himself for being angry with himself for being angry at all on the occasions." -Walter Scott, The Heart of Mid-Lothian Everyone has moments of extreme emotion. It's not healthy…
Every day we would be receiving hundreds of emails and we would be responding back to them as a part of our work or in our personal capacity. But, we always make a few mistakes which do not look wrong but are more like disasters. Let's look at a few of them: 1. We send Or receive emails with an URGENT written in caps…
When a person shares their struggles publicly, a very common type of seemingly empathetic reaction is to tell them they are not alone. There are a lot of people going through similar issues. Your problems are not unique. I could never understand this. Never have I suddenly started feeling better after realizing that…
There is generally good awareness on the importance of gratitude tracking and how that improves mental health. There is a tendency to make gratitude noting as a mega milestone kind of event like, child birth, exams, promotion, and more recently, what is trending also is daily micro gratitude practices, where listing…
Your heart beats fast as you anticipate the dopamine. Rendering. Loading. At last: Look at all that engagement in others' timelines: "if only I could be so influential!" But then, that dreadful feeling: the uncertainty, fear, and doubt The last time you posted something, it was crickets and dropped pins "Am I the only…
Today while walking in the contemporary museum there were so many pieces that I just resonated with, sometimes I would catch myself smiling or even feeling a feeling sadness depending on the emotion that the artist is going for. Its crazy how as humans we can transmit emotions and feelings through storytelling, words…
I did NOT prepare to tell my supervisor I was no longer going to to continue being part of the team... and this is what happened: - I told them it was because of a team mate (which is ultimately not true, no matter how hard they are to understand and work with). - I told them so many things out of my ass,…
No matter your choice of activities, you can be learning. You intentionally choose to participate in some activities to increase your knowledge. Having an in-depth conversation Reading to learn (vs. reading for pleasure) Watching a how-to video. Your purpose in choosing other activities is downtime. A vacation…
Remember the childhood tale about an emperor wearing invisible clothes but, in truth, was naked? His Council of Ministers and the kingdom did not tell him because they feared his wrath. But, it was a child who laughed and said, "the Emperor has no clothes." Now place yourself in the shoes of the Emperor's Prime…
Ah running out of time, "i will do it later" i say to myself. no! do it now, that same idea will not exist in the future, it will be lost. it may be found but why try. it can exist now...
Eu volto de férias hoje às 14h. Tenho certeza que tenho muitos emails para ler, só não mais que eu teria se estivesse trabalhando no varejo. Então, um mais um motivo para agradecer. Agora, minha quarentena esse ano vai ser do instagram. Volto daqui 40 dias. Com o tempo, pretendo ler mais, estudar mais. Hoje também fiz…
I had the privilege of a very long talk with my skip boss. What started off with niceties about skiing quickly moved to discussing a major problem at work. Earlier this week we discovered a necessary change to the database required to move forward with what had been a trivial value-add in our app. The change required…
It finally happened. I dipped my pen nib into my morning coffee. Should have put a lid on the cup. Can't dip in the wrong container if there's a lid over one of the liquids. Another drawback to drinking coffee black; out of the corner of your eye, it looks like your ink. One of those moments you figured would…
Praying in tongues is the super-power I wish I had known about earlier. Or, being honest, that I had used earlier.
What is the relationship between marginal, radical, or heretical beliefs and one's status or standing in polite society? Status predisposes us to think and believe in certain ideas about the world that reinforce or confirm our location in the hierarchy by virtue of demonstrating to others of equal or higher status…
i have never recovered from the love i felt for you it doesn't matter if someone is bf material or not--you can fall in love with them--because it's not for the sake of making them your bf that you fell in love with them
ieri notte mi sono svegliato alle 3, ho acceso il telefono e ho finito per installare il browser di Qwant per iOS, che è poi una versione semplificata di Firefox. Sono passate solo 17 ore, durante le quali ho anche dormito, guidato, camminato 17 km in montagna fino a 3.000 metri di quota, mangiato un paio di volte e…
Sometime in the mid-noughties, heavy downloads of video files were spotted by Trilegal's IT department. The firm was still small, with a fragile internet connection. Emails and internet access had slowed down - something had to be done. The Head of IT was asked to investigate. He called back, short of breath. "Sir,…
furthermore, i think city folk and even suburbanites should go back to the countryside (because that's where everyone is from, originally; and before that, the wilderness) and start farming again i'm preaching the opposite of that movie "interstellar" where they make farming a dirty ignoble thing and make high-tech…
How useless most of what we do at agencies is... When working for a friend's business, I suddenly dont think that audience segmentations or anything like that is worth it.
Sometimes I get a rush of motivation for studying, even if it’s a subject I don't necessarily like. I enjoy the process and the feeling of learning. However, when I start to feel the weight of others’ expectations about my performance or results, that spark of motivation quickly fades. It’s strange because many people…
pulled the thread of despair i took to bed last night, the "why bother?" that hovered, unbidden, writing roadblock 97, the one that combines worthiness with approval, the one that questions whether anyone reads anymore, if the world needs another cooking story, the one that tells me i can't for so many reasons. pulled…
i have had quite an interest in exploring what it means to build and inhabit more “homey” and inviting digital spaces. oftentimes i've had hangups about the polished and performative pressures that i experience on social media apps. feeling the need to tweet or post the perfect thing to represent myself. very often,…
It's strange that people think low of people who are vulnerable yet hold vulnerability as a virtue in high regard. Double standards.
I. Humans began their story on this Earth as brutish, violent, tribal knuckle-draggers, barely distinguishable from their ape relatives. Over thousands of years of gradual genetic and cultural evolution, humanity has marched through history to achieve progressively more peaceful and prosperous societies. We're slowly…
Situation: There is a couple at the coffee shop. She is 37, he seems older. They are not talking at all. He is onto his cellphone. Story: I wonder is she still remembers the first time that he kiss her. Now, there is only distance between them. It feels like today she didn't take any time to choose whatever she was…
As the title suggests, I am not really addicted to things. I drink alcohol only once every few months, usually with just a few people. I smoke rarely throughout the year, and I only smoke up a few times in the entire year. And all this time, I was proud of being a moderate drinker, someone who didn't cause trouble or…
One of the biggest productivity “hacks” that doesn’t get the attention it deserves is time blocking. Cal Newport has been detailing the benefits of time blocking for years. He even built a planner around it. If you are not currently managing your busy life with a calendar (any calendar!) then I cannot understand how…
On LinkedIn, I recently wrote a brief response to this FT article by Martin Sandbu: https://www.ft.com/content/6f70bbcd-72b7-4518-be6b-401adba7cc34?s=09. I'm posting a lightly-edited version of my response here: While this discussion is certainly welcome, I find it somewhat one-sided, given it comes from the side of…
I'm guilty of doom surfing. I spend most of my time on StreamRing... you know the drill: press the 'Random' button and watch people from all over the globe trying to get famous. This is what I do while having dinner. The other day I got a weird one: An anon account streaming an old computer showing just text. Well,…
i am now certain that jordan castro stole his voice from tao lin just because trip was published in 2018 the novelist was published in 2022 but jordan castro is so funny whereas tao lin is kind of just slightly humorous i'm glad i held off on writing castro a fan letter.
Taking a shower does nothing if you put on dirty clothes afterwards.
Recently, I faced a challenge with relapse, and it was difficult to cope with the urges triggered by external factors. However, I managed to let go of the temptation and move forward. It was a tough day, but I found relief in staying strong. Although I regretted the relapse, the experience offered me a moment of…
Eu demorei tanto tempo pra voltar aqui que tive que logar novamente. Depois da morte da Glória Maria passei uns dias derrubada, e não apenas por isso, que por si só já é uma grande coisa. Lembro que fui com um crush comer Burger King e não consegui me concentrar em nada do que ele dizia sobre divisão de contas em date…
When was the last time did you try or buy some thing out of your own curiosity or without any feedback? Must have been a very very long time i am sure. Today for everything and anything we have an app and someone would have written a feedback about the product or the service which you want to buy or try. This has made…
Coming back to a country that never felt like home. Every time I come back to Chile at immigration, I watch as the officer speaks Spanish to the non-Asian person in front of me, then switches to English when he realizes that that person doesn’t understand Spanish. When it’s my turn, the officer immediately addresses…
Ontem eu falei aqui que tava na bad pq um ficante terminou comigo. Fui almoçar com uma amiga e chorei no metrô, chorei no almoço, chorei voltando pra casa, passei mal na rua, enfim o drama. Eu já aceitei que eu sou dramática. Falei com essa minha amiga que eu almocei, uma amiga que tá vivendo um amor de verão dos…
Earlier this week, a friend shared the official first song of his son, released in mainstream media. Very deep lyrics for an 18 year old to sing, about grief, death, the transient nature of our lives, before moving to the main theme of gratitude. Listening to it, immediately brought an inner smile to my being. I…
We reset ourselves by feeling like we've reclaimed control of our environment. Most of us have learned repeatable behaviours that help us feel normal. I wrote about how a bath resets me in a piece earlier. For some, it could be cleaning or cooking for another person. Some people maintain to-do lists. I've also heard…
Last month, I started learning how to make homemade ramen. The goal was simple, make something edible. Now I'm getting pretty good at making ramen. And my interest is starting to peter out. I'm not waking up thinking about where to source local chickens anymore. I'm no longer rifling through amazon for better fridge…
What is the goal of a human life? We are on this planet for 100 years at best and of those 100 years a part at the beginning and a part at the end will not be productive. So we only have limited time available to us. Within this limited time we build structures and systems in place to create, build and live on this…
The little firm that I was was part of setting up in March 2000 now has over 600 lawyers and is heading towards having one hundred partners. Its place in the top echelon of the Indian law firm world is well established. It is an admired employer, trusted by clients and seasoned lawyers see it as the platform to…
She was a poem, I wrote in the sand, and I watched, As the waves of time, faded her memory. Time draws its own lines, carrying away each moment, each word. I was a fool to think, the shore, could hold her forever. Like the beautiful sunset, at dusk, watch it with awe, take it all in, because the sky will darken. Now,…
‘Indian Matchmaking’ and ‘A Suitable Girl’ have much in common: producer Smriti Mundhra, match-maker Sima Taparia, and an overwhelming display of complex but problematic routines and notions around arranged marriage. Yet, one is cringe (but binge-worthy), while the other is deeply unsettling. The difference in…
Islândia, Indonesia, India... O trio dos "I's", os lugares que eu mais amei conhecer. Já voltei para a Islândia, e voltaria de novo. Na India eu já quis até morar. Indonesia. Cada viagem, uma história. A primeira vez foi com Shima (que já partiu e deixou saudades...) quando escrevíamos nosso livro Volta ao Mundo em 13…
Regardless of what you do, we all have little moments in our daily life, where our minds get cluttered up with all kinds of negative thoughts, So, what do you do to get yourself out of it? this blog is just for it. I read a lot of self-help books, and everyone seems to have a different answer to this issue.…
The advice on how to lead a mindful and healthy life won't stop. Everything you do and your manner are incorrect. The internet and its natives have made a decision - you must change. Everything about yourself has to be new.It has to be different. It has to be optimised and efficient. Often, especially on Instagram, I…