Gathering thoughts…
A world of little thoughts.
So, I learned a few things over the weekend. Can anyone from a so-called third-world country like Indonesia guess the average cost of a one-bedroom apartment in New York City? It’s $4,778 per month or roughly IDR 79 million. Holy. Freaking. Airball. For that price, we could probably rent a room in Istana Bogor and…
I do like the restraint. I do enjoy the anonymity. I do love writing. Think I’ll stay and play a while.
new year's resolution = goal focused resolution new year's evolution = growth in all areas of life one of my biggest / most challenging goals for 2023 is going to be 0 alcohol the level up will be insane and sobriety will be a nice change.
The self-help genre is the second most addicting substance that is fully legal in the world. In case you’re wondering, coffee is first by a long mile. The self-help industry is worth over 10 billion dollars, and I imagine will continue to grow as we search for more answers on how to improve. We read books and listen…
Oh to stand in the rain without a care in the world. To lie on a warm boulder after a cold swim in the river. To take a cold shower on a hot day. To cozy up by the fire after a midnight dip. To curl up in bed after a long day. To have the fortune of feeling sorrow. To be surrounded by joy. To have a life so peaceful…
Getting home from work and being in a kitchen all day it makes you realize how much more you want that dream to work. Cooking it’s cool it’s fun and creative but to be doing all day? Not that cool. . . Need to hyper focus more on the dream/goal
Recentemente Tia Laura arrumou suas coisinhas, preparou um antepasto que só ela sabia fazer e o deixou curando em cima da mesa, tirou o pó dos ombros e pegou aquele elevador que só sobe, não desce; e se foi. Com o poder de tranquilizar quem quer que fosse, ajudar como podia todos ao seu redor, sempre tinha aquele…
I was recently asked about what gives me hope when I don’t believe in religion or God. And this got me thinking. Well, hope is a belief that you hold that the future will be better. It’s not bound by logic. At times, it’s also something that you create in your own mind. Whether it’s through God, religion or anything…
reflect & manifest reverb23 in january adapts the reverb10 event shared about in this post - https://nicheless.blog/post/before-%7C-reverb-in-december-20 "... online initiative to reflect on your year and manifest what’s next ... an opportunity to reflect on what's happened, and to send out reverberations for the year…
Louis Pereira's perceptive post on not trusting intuition reminded me of something. (https://nicheless.blog/post/disregarding-intuition) A dear friend once told me that when someone close - friend, family, colleague - says to him: "read that book, its just your type of writing," or "think about taking up tango…
hearts are complicated organs. when i wanted to become a surgeon, i knew i'd choose neurosurgery. there was something - something i haven't still defined - something the world hasn't yet uncovered - that makes a mind make a heart. complicated, isn't it? we look for answers where we know there are none. we wait when we…
I'm almost 51 and my body has taken this fifth decade to declare that it requires attention, consistent healthy habits and quite possibly some medication to prop up the system.
Feel the pain. Look for the silver lining. Feed a distraction. Journal the thoughts. Blame not yourself. Think of the other times you’ve gotten over things. This too shall pass.
i have heard a lot of conversations attempt to define an NFT era in art as it occurs. the thing is, art eras are rarely defined at their current time. but for the sake of conversation an NFT could be seen as post-post-modern art where a standard is starting to emerge in the format is it created and the exploration of…
Sometimes your brain protects you by thinking of the future. Anticipating scenarios. Sometimes your brain protects you by reminding you of all the difficulties in the past that you’ve survived. One of my difficulties is saying goodbye
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i'm editing some stuff that i wrote a long time ago while getting "hydrated" before my run (i heard it's important) and it is so whiny and depressing and i feel so bad for myself but i also think i had zero self-awareness i said things like "i'm attracted to brutes" and it's like, name ONE fucking brute you've ever…
The environment can be sick, the music can be sick, every single detail is sick, But if the people are not right everything can be off
I have wanted to pursue a Master's degree for well over a year now. The desire to do so has been all-consuming and if I'm being honest, exhausting. I find myself struggling to write the essays, and more particularly, the infamous statement of purpose. It's not that I can't find purpose. It is that I do not know how to…
I got in to a discussion with a friend about some bill that was signed into law in Florida that, depending on your political orientation, either (a) made it illegal to talk about being gay in classrooms, insinuating that anyone who supported it is a homophobic bigot, or (b) was an attempt by concerned parents and…
There are many reasons to want a journaling habit. What’s your reason? A specific reason to journal is not required. Like any daily habit, having a why will keep you motivated. A quick internet search will yield a list of the benefits and research behind journaling. Your why may or may not be listed among the…
Is it alright to have sad feelings if they seem cliché? Is it okay to struggle with the same simple universal problems over and over for decades? I learn new facts every day but I won't learn anything about myself until I'm terrified of dying and fading away forever.
The mind is a curious place. It's a place for ideas, a place for rest, a safe place for the softening of chaos, distress and pain. It is powerful, intense, bewildering and surprising all at once. Most importantly, it stores an immense trove of memories and information, some conscious (and even embarrassing!), but most…
i once had a piano student who had glenn gould energy a little baby of 7 or 10 years old and he told me he only plays the piano to impress girls i thought so young...and he already knows what life is about.
Pessimism is a disease of the mind. It is where hope goes to die. It is the virtue of the loser, the quitter. It is the darkness that is cool comfort for those to scared to live before they die. With the collapse of FTX and the fraudulent and terrible actions surrounding those placed in positions of trust in the…
tamino has a really special vibe and in the past i've tried to copy him https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hOZ6oXtx1oM but have since forgotten about him and then at open mic i ended up borrowing someone's guitar to sing and i went for a lana del rey song and looking at my video i saw a bit of tamino i was wearing all…
after going to indonesia, my appetite for experiencing the world has been awakened, for the first time (before this trip, i was excited to talk to people from different places, but didn't necessarily see the point in actually /going/ anywhere...and despite that, i had somehow visited 20 countries so everyone in my…
(original: 2006 October 18) a quick acknowledgment of WHY i go to my h.s. reunion - louis = devil (as a term of endearment, of course) - i made a deal with louis at the 1st reunion (the 5 yr) - hence, i made a deal with the devil i do not back out on deals (most of the time) some of my memories from the 5 year reunion…
On LinkedIn, I recently wrote a brief response to this FT article by Martin Sandbu: https://www.ft.com/content/6f70bbcd-72b7-4518-be6b-401adba7cc34?s=09. I'm posting a lightly-edited version of my response here: While this discussion is certainly welcome, I find it somewhat one-sided, given it comes from the side of…
ppl dream so small. every comment on every live performance of every artist says "i want to go to their concert". not i. i want them to sing this to me privately in the fucking shower. matt healy. "robbers" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qu2QXKDNoWs this. in the fucking shower. let's go.
I reflected on my Linkedin activity last week on the platform. The immediate response of my friends and their network within the first hour of posting felt good. People found the post amusing! So I of course HAD to post the same jab on twitter, and share a screenshot of the original post on my Instagram story. What…
I'm soon going to complete my 30th lap around the Sun. I'm not sure what life expectancy is these days, but it's fair to assume that I'm half way through life. The years ahead me will be very different from the ones of the past. I'll probably have more resources but less energy. It's like the part of the movie post…
Something was definitely lost when we started calling it content. The catchall quality of the term seems to define a certain type of mindless consumption which makes it difficult to differentiate between the single different bites and ultimately remember any of it. Everything is entertaining, nothing is memorable.
Endlessly offering my shoulder for you to lean and cry on, but you always reject it. Endlessly prioritizing you, instead you chose to ignore me. Endlessly understanding you, but you chose to see me as an inconvenience. Endlessly giving you my love, even if I don't get anything in return.
One day, I picked up my grandson from school and had a conversation with him about his day. I asked if he enjoyed math and English. Then I asked whether he was good at handwriting and told him that mine was poor unless I took my time with it. My grandson's response to the handwriting question floored me a little. He…
Tô lendo os anos, da Ernaux certo? Não sei se já falei aqui. Não lembro. Pois bem. Tô sempre me surpreendendo como que eu consigo me identificar com ela, uma mulher escrevendo sobre os anos 60. Como muito e, ao mesmo tempo, tão pouco mudou. Ela falando que quando volta nas folgas da universidade pra visitar a família…
To the ones, Laying awake at night, Wondering if you’ll ever find someone. Scrolling through Instagram, Looking through the window of life, And it seems like the Whole world is finding love, You’re happy for them. But there’s a whisper, A doubt, A tiny prick to the heart “Will I ever be as happy as them?” Some of us…
This morning, I realized that we're already more than halfway through the year. It's crazy how quickly time passes, and each year it only seems to accelerate. As children, a single school year or a summer break felt like an eternity. Now, days and months slip by in the blink of an eye. Casey Neistat brilliantly…
Pre-reqs you might want to grok this post: An understanding of IFS-style parts, and of how stopping resisting emotions can let them flourish and give you more freedom. —— I recently found a new emotional processing technique that has been really helpful. When I’m feeling an intense emotion, I consider that emotion to…
When is the last time you argued with someone? No matter the answer, remember to be kind to yourself. We are human. We all get into arguments over topics that in hindsight are trivial. From Sports to Salvation and Finances to Family Members Arguing is a big part of entertainment in today’s world. It's the foundation…
Take it in things that’ll RELATE to you - Not trying to remember all details that you’ve seen - like literally EVERYONE Yes it’ll be good to notice things that people don’t But focus on the right ones Smartness is all about relevancy (One good example is directions, maps are everywhere but relatable to you; people…
ahh- no warning, just locked instantly for a set time. no way to dispute until the timer runs out. very frustrating...
Is a mix of competency and warmth. Find the balance - you can’t be too friendly but don’t know anything at the same time. To have charisma you need competent And you need to radiate out with the right amount of body & language works (way of converse, thoughts, vocabs - language is the best way to exhibit & market…
1. What's the biggest business a single person can build without any employees? 2. Can a society with diverse, conflicting values survive? 3. Is it better to embrace human nature and play status games or fight it and attempt to avoid them? 4. What factors make a place worth living in? 5. How can I help my hometown…
Do Not Hand Wave over Important Topics The gift of written communication outside of Twitter and Nicheless is that the word count is generally boundless. We can dive into any point and pull our selves back out to any level of abstraction that we want to. When and where to dive into writing is art, not science. But such…
I’ve been on a bit of a journey with JavaScript recently, and stumbled upon a simple, yet game-changing tweak—using Boolean(). I used to do the standard stepCompleted != null checks. They worked well enough but left room for surprise with values like 0 or ''. Switching to Boolean(candidate.stepCompleted) was a small…
Young people tend to be more reformist, and older individuals more revivalist. There is something about aging which makes people revivalist. Revivalism is induced by a cocktail, which is one part nostalgia and three parts lived experiences. A very hard liquor, it causes permanent and irreversible damage to the brain…
Originally prompted in May 2019 in a writing course, periodically refreshing, my current 12 favorite problems 1. How can trust and transparency be cultivated among the interplay of public, government, and businesses toward environmental justice? 2. How can I self-regulate my reactions to those who are dishonest and…
