What each person wants >>> what you strive to do

Maybe there’s more way to go about it.

Why I feel anxious when something is not going my way - is because I was not used to acting or behaving this way. Too much of my own comfort zone.

So to not feel anxious - be comfortable in feeling uncomfortable.

Know that you’ll fail no matter what in the first place and it’s perfectly okay as long as you started.

As long as you have the intention / the seed of an idea planted in your brain that you wanted to solve it - usually nobody will judge you & NO ONE will judge you! As long as you have the heart itself is already a top 20% performance. So use this as a leverage for people to be confident that you have the ability to finish to the end.

2nd: regarding your mum/your ex

You’ve been treating your ex like you wished you treated your mum & treating your mum like your ex.

Know what each person wants.

Mum wants to be loved - she crave attention and caring, you don’t need to be 100% present for her

YQ wanted to be strong; independent - she wants you to be present & wants your around so be fun: don’t be loving because she can get it from his dad.