How I successfully practice the “Finding Calm in the Chaos” superpower and you should too!!
Two scenarios - a personal one and a professional one, to understand this superpower.
Personal Life - think of your latest argument with anyone. Reflect on what led to this being so chaotic in the first place? A core reason might simply be the sheer aggression and need to get your point across. When both the actors in a conversation do that, it leads to CHAOS vs a healthy debate. Each person becomes tone-deaf to another's point and simply adds to the noise by proving they are right and the other is wrong.
CHANGE: if one of the persons maintained their patience and calm at that moment. It takes courage and habit to have a sensible conversation and meaningful outcome vs each trying to get their own favourable outcomes!
Professional Life - a critical aspect for any technology company is to deliver quality software with 100% uptime(ideally) and ZERO production issues. The more common terms in the industry are “war room”, “production outage”, “firefighting”
CHANGE: having the right temperament matters. Creating a situation of panic and chaos might lead to being scrappy and causing more harm than help. A CALM & COMPOSED approach will make the process easy and reaching to a solution quicker!
TOUGH PART: "anxiety disorders" are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 18.1% of the population every year in USA.
CHANGE:
- Patience & Perseverance
- Reflecting at the end of a conversation
- Maintaining harmony rather than winning the argument
- Practice pausing during the moment of panic
- Think of all the past instances where you fell short
WRAP-UP: this can seem a tad bit superficial to digest but with the right process, patience and plan — one can definitely limit the rate at which this happens and witness the wonders of this.